Baby Boomer Goes Limp

I’m probably a little out of the norm for this site as I am 66 years old. Yes, I’m a baby boomer. I have noticed that keeping an erection and having an orgasm has become more and more difficult. After my last failed attempt to have sex with my wife, she mentioned that I used to be a lot harder. It was quite embarrassing for me.

I used to make fun at the commercials on TV for ED remedies not understanding how anyone could have a problem getting and keeping an erection. It had never been a problem for me. I totally understand now.

Fortunately, when I Googled “my dick is dead” I found this site and community. I had no idea that PMO could have something to do with my problem, but now, after spending the entire day reviewing the information on this site, I’m convinced that my ED is really PIED.

I’ve been looking at porn for probably more years than many of you have been alive. Almost all of what has been described on NoFap I have noticed, wondered about and experienced. I was tickled to find I am not alone and that there to be a possible solution to my ED. I am looking forward to exploring a new sexual realm and making your acquaintance.

 

Thanks, Blondewife. I'm sure I can do this, day by day, minute to minute. The mind is a real mine field. I think I'm going to spend time here at NoFap when I would normally be surfing. Good substitute.
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Well, I'm coming up on a week with PMOing. Been spending a lot of time on NoFap to occupy myself when urges come. I spend a lot of time alone so my discipline must be at peak performance most of the time.

It's funny thinking that I would have given into an urge in an instant just a week ago. As soon as I feel the desire I head for the computer, but to this site first. I deleted all of my pics, links and have Google set so I see less tempting pics. So, I'm going to give myself a pat on the back for all that has been accomplished in just a week.

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Well, I tried Karezza (sex without a male orgasm) with my wife today and I must say, it worked out great for us both. Just because I'm rebooting and abstaining from having an orgasm doesn't mean she has to go without sex. She's perfectly happy to participate and understands my abstention part. Funny thing is that it was immensely satisfying for me even without having an orgasm. Who'd uh ever thunk?

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In the midst of a huge urge to MO right now. I saw someone while on an errand a little while ago that has stimulated me. I will not permit the fantasy nor my imagination run wild. It's interesting that since I can never actually have this someone as a sex partner in the past I could permit myself to have them by fantasy and masturbation. This is a way to substitute what I can't have through fantasy. And, we all know that every fantasy is perfect in all ways, nothing ever goes wrong. What a safe space to be in.

OK, I must move away from this thought and get busy with other things.

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Let's see, I'm 20 days without PMOing and urges are present. I have no pictures on my computer and my links are gone. Google searches are filtered. I won't unfilter them as I know where that's going to lead and I don't want to go there. I miss the relief, the head rush. But, I created this monster and must tame it in the only way that works. No fapping. OK, going to go keep myself busy until this passes.

Later,

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Thanks @Gaston for your support.

Funny thing happened today as I was out at Whole Foods. I saw an attractive woman and "sized her up" and down. What I've done in the past was use that image for some mental and physical stimulation. I realized that since I no long take that route of M'ing to my memories, there was no reason to look at this, or any other gal, that way. (I will always and forever look? Of course.) Maybe this is what those who have been at this for a while meant when they no longer objectified women. Interesting.

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@Gaston, that's a funny thought. Look at me, I need the attention, look at me! We have such control... over ourselves. LOL!

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