Back on Track

[Stomgork]

recently I found myself back on cans after over 100 days off…. It got bad where I started to have a relationship on the chat site with a cam model I would just give her money to talk to her…I estimate now I have spent close to $2k on cams over the past few years even though I have kicked the habit and successfully locked myself out of my accounts and emails I found myself back.

It has now been 5 days since I have been off cams and I do t want to go back. I work remote so there is this feeling of isolation that cans can avoid that I am trying to permanently break free from. I am also changing jobs which should hopefully alleviate some of the symptoms but I understand the change has to come from within me and not try to escape from reality but to greet wit with compassion and fearlessness to direct my life energy instead of spending it pointlessly.

I guess it is back to one day at a time I know I can do this because I have had multiple 100 day streaks

 

[CostlyMistake]

Hi there. I'm in the UK and just signed up to NoFap because I have a similar experience to you and I badly need someone to talk to. I too have just stopped using a cam site where I got hooked and ended up spending £3.5k + in about 5 weeks. I became particularly attached, even obsessed, with one particular girl. I am normally so careful with money but I completely lost my head and believed all of her BS about how much she liked me and our close connection. Only now am I accepting how clever she was and how manipulative she was.

This whole cam girl industry sickens me, these girls are cruel and heartless, this particular girl is clever and totally in control she knew what she was doing, she knew when to pressure me and when to back off.

 

[Stomgork]

I am sorry you are going through this…unfortunately I am starting a new job and don’t have much time to talk but feel free to message me if you want and I will reply as I can.

Also please do these steps
- Assuming you used a burner email for camsites - Delete the account now! I use yahoo and they shut it down if it is terminated over 30 days
- Delete your cam account



One thing that helps me is if I feel like peaking on the sites I give myself freedom to M without P and certainly without cams. I am now almost 3 weeks clean of cam sites.

Also exercise helps, do as many push-ups as you can get a kettlebell go for a walk etc.

@cleaningupmyact I am tagging you here in case you can provide our bro here some more help in his journey

 

[mightneedhelp1]

Hi there. I'm in the UK and just signed up to NoFap because I have a similar experience to you and I badly need someone to talk to. I too have just stopped using a cam site where I got hooked and ended up spending £3.5k + in about 5 weeks. I became particularly attached, even obsessed, with one particular girl. I am normally so careful with money but I completely lost my head and believed all of her BS about how much she liked me and our close connection. Only now am I accepting how clever she was and how manipulative she was.

This whole cam girl industry sickens me, these girls are cruel and heartless, this particular girl is clever and totally in control she knew what she was doing, she knew when to pressure me and when to back off.

It's good that you're talking openly about this because acknowledging the problem is important step toward making a change. It sounds like you may be placing most of the blame on her rather than looking at your own responsibility. She may have manipulated you but you were the one making payments. Taking responsibility doesn't mean denying she influenced or exploited you, it just means looking honestly at what led to the behaviour and how can you prevent it in the future.