Back To School.Help ASAP!

WaveKing15 · Jan 2, 2018

-This is going to be long but please take your time to understand.
As many might already know,most of us students are returning back to school this week from winter holidays.For me,school is a zone mostly throwing stress at me.This stress then leads me to go to the toliet afterschool at home,lock the door,sit and then PMO.
I'm turning to you guys if you could help me adjust my timetable to help me with NoFap.Here is typical week timetable-->
Monday-Friday
7am-wake up and prepare for school usually have no shower
8am-leave the house and go to school
8.30am-3pm-school.Ok this part of the day where I sweat heavily when I talk to beautiful girls.Feel tired during lessons,get in trouble for uncompleted work,hesitating and looking awkward while I read aloud to the class.
4pm ish- get home and usually PMO straight away,pick up my siblings from another school.
4.45pm-10pm-doing homework,going study clubs or studying
10.30-11pm-sleep
Weekends and holidays-Honestly boring than school.All I do is study or watch movies and play games(It is not as fun as it sounds),all I want to do is to go out with my friends like any 15 year old wants to.However I'm not allowed because of my parent's paranoia.Watching my friend's snapchats having fun just adds to my isolation,social anxiety and more temptation to PMO.(Add to your answer if you think you can help with this weird problem but please do.I can't live like this,It's unhealthy.)
So yeah, that's pretty much my life(sorry if i'm going off topic but needed to get it off my chest).I honestly love my parents too much to try and change their perspectives in a harsh way.I've talked to them but they say it's too dangerous outside and I have to wait for another few years until I could make my own decisions.I'm not allowed to leave the house after dark or with someone older.Not allowed to go to area's where the youth just play football and chill because they are 'bad people'.
(Back to topic)Is there anything little or big to change from my timetable to help myself change for the best without too much stress(e.g. running to and from school,listen to music to calm myself,having showers at morning or night,start gym at 15).
Writing this was honestly just difficult because I do not tell people my problems and keep it inside but since this community has helped and motivated far beyond anything else I turn to you guys for help.

Sahdude7201 · Jan 2, 2018

I'm glad you've taken it off your chest. That's priority, as of course having too much stuff on your chest can drive you nuts. -Personal experience-. But I'm 15 too, and I've got my final year, but I don't have, much problems related to yours. However, I may recommend getting a shower in the morning, as it keeps you fresh and wakes you up for the morning ;my opinion. And the after school PMO, you should think of taking after school classes instead? As my days are consumed with so many actions that I don't even have much time for even masturbating. But try and control yourself for a few days, and get a hobby to do after school, such as working out, as the combination of no PMO and exercise is a greaaaatttt combination for motivation and confidence. But with your parents.. that's always a tough one. Why not ask to go with your siblings wherever they go? Like if they go football or something, mention that you want to do something similar. Or personally tell them emotively that you feel de-motivated as you don't go outdoors, and would at want to go out with friends. Make a deal with them, you do something for them, and they let you do something. 2-way relationship is what my uncle always tells me lol. And hell yeah, I listen to shittt tons of music, since I got rid of my phone, I use my laptop a lot.

Hope some of this helps. I suck with advice.

topjobm8two · Jan 2, 2018

15 is complicated enough time.

There is a great book called the obstacle is the way.

Embed in your problem lie many opportunities. Find them, turn them to your advantage.

Example. This is a time for learning, unlike me, who has to work full time to support a family, you can dedicate time this this awesome opportunity.

What do you want to do when you leave school? Think about this deeply. Read mastery by Robert greene. Find your life's purpose. Get home, and try not masturbate for a few days.

Ask your parents what sort of thongs you'd have to do to earn those trust. It's likely that are also afraid of you losing it. Speak to them rationally, prove to them you're not untested in drugs.

Find someone in the real world to share your issues with.

Some Specie · Jan 2, 2018

We're the same! I'm also a back-to-school student and has the same issue regarding parents.
I guess PMO is your way of releasing stress, and the reason itself why you're stressed. It has a lot of negative effect to your brain. your lack of confidence, focus, energy might be the results you get from it.
my advice to you is to quit PMO and do a reboot.
there's only one thing to change on your timetable, the PMO
all you just gotta do is find your interest.
interest that will replace PMO and serves as your way of releasing stress.
(bond with your siblings, read a book, etc.)

also, have the motivation to do so, know what is at stake and what benefits you can get from it(your school performane, social skills, attention and fous)

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