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Back to work and been constantly relapsing

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by BillyBobBoBoBo, Sep 30, 2020.

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  1. Sep 30, 2020 #1
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    So since I've gotten back to work I have just been on a constant relapsing fit, because of a rapid change of schedule & stresses from it. As before the whole covid thing, I did a shift of 12pm till 8pm. Then was of the UK government benefit of getting 80% of your pay and was doing that fir 6 months, which didn't do much outside from exercising & YouTube, which I regret not doing more to better myself. And now back to work now doing 2pm till midnight, which I don't mind working extra hours, just struggling with going to bed late & waking up early & feeling like terrible, where I struggle to fall back asleep & just watch YouTube or relapse to wake me up before I exercise & I am angry at myself for doing it. I want to work on my will power and to watch a bit if YouTube after exercising for delayed gratification, but I have just been struggling to do that & I don't know what to do.

    Dies any one have any suggestions?
     
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    Try not to be angry with yourself. You have a lot going on at the moment- with returning to work and the change in shift and sleep pattern- this is bound to be stressful for anyone, never mind someone in recovery.
    Try to accept your situation as best you can and think of ways that will make it as easy for you as possible. You are trying to stay well and that is the most important thing.
    Take care mate and I hope things settle down for you very soon.
     
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  3. Oct 1, 2020 #3
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    Thanks man, yeah I have an issue of taking things too hard, trying to work on that as well all of this.

    Seeing therapy about the addiction and acknowledged it so I know I'm in the right direction.
     
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    We all do. Nothing drives us back to our addiction like convincing ourselves that we've failed already.
    You're going through a hard transition, you reverted to old behaviour in an attempt to cope, you have seen that it's taking you in the wrong direction, you've admitted that here and you've asked for help.
    To me, that sounds like being human and then taking the right action. You have self awareness. Now, take a break from PMO and from the self-criticism and start making a plan of how you are going to move forward.
     
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    Yeah that is something I want to work more on.
     
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    You could just quit porn at first, it's better than constant relapses.
     
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    Yeah that’s another issue I have is over thinking too much, just need to do and not think about how I want to do it.
     
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    Yeah that is the plan.
     
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    I guess the issue is that I'm having issues sleeping at the moment as of the drastic change to my schedule & still waking up earlier than I want and struggling with that as more why I'm relapsing.
     
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    I appreciate the advice, just more struggling because of lack of sleep affecting the will power. But I can't use that as an excuse to not change, I want to take back the control of my urges.

    As the meme goes, "I don't wish to be horny any more. I wish to be happy"
     
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    So I didn't look at the screen too long before exercising & got to work on time today. Feel good about that and going to keep it up.
     
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    Small steps, but hope to keep it up.
     
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    Relapsed again, no excuses, had low will power, want to do better.
     
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