Hello all, I used to post here frequently, but haven’t in a long while. The scoop: I had suffered from performance anxiety for many years through a psychological thread that seemed to be reinforced by PIED. Simply put, excessive porn use had caused me to have ED issues, and it resulted in anxiety. And the two conditions played a wonderful tap dance on my life and emotions After a couple of hard relapses and reshaping my noPMO methods, and living with my SO for the first time, I feel that I am making good progress. We are having sex. I am able to have successful erections. There has been an added challenge with dryness issues on her side of things, which I can easily solve with some personal lubricants. No problem! But here’s the problem I now face: Because of my complete abstinence from PMO and focusing entirely on my SO, I have not been able to last more than about 30 seconds when we DO have sex. At first, I used it as a source of compliment, telling her that it’s proof of how attractive she is (which is completely true..... she’s crazy hot, and loves me). But this is getting embarrassing! She’s getting pretty disappointed that I finish so quickly. But if I try to masturbate to increase my “stamina,” I fear it will lead me back to ED. One thing I’ve noticed is it still takes a bit of effort to get fully erect. And when I’m finally firm enough, I’m almost to the point of orgasm. So I imagine that is the anxiety that’s resulting in some vasoconstriction issues (keeping me flaccid) until I’m almost over the edge. I’m sure others here have struggled with this. Any tips on how to work this balance? Is it purely about controlling the anxiety? Or has anyone had success with methods of “pacing” yourself, if at all possible?