Balance is essential to liberation from addiction

I found a super important correlation and medicine for overcoming porn!
While in the past my focus was in overcoming the “evil porn addiction” I completely changed my approach.
I now am convinced that this approach gives much energy to the problem rather than the solution.
The failure then is so disappointing and self condemnation happens as it was for me and I can see in many here suffering this terrible cycle.

Creating balance in life and filling holes and satisfying true needs is super important to combat behavior that came out of line (addiction)
I realized that there is a reason why this became like this.
If life is not in balance and major needs aren’t realized and met the “ soul” the system gets way out of balance and compensation must happen instead. Porn isn’t the problem. The cause for addicting to it is.

For me it was various realizations and changes in my life that put me into a much better place.

1. I asked myself one day deeply why I actually do this instead of the self inflicted torture of judging and condemning myself.
When I stopped judging myself I removed the blockage that deeper mindfulness and realization -the true medicine - can come into place.
2. I realized that my long ending porn sessions dwelling strongly deep in desire in edging, took my mind off pressure i have, responsibilities and burden I carry. They, as I can see now, were way too much and I couldn’t give my head a rest. Porn desire dwelling really did. So in this sense it was very good.
However addiction is not the way to do this and what I want. But instead of condemning myself and being frustrated and depressed about another failure I started to look what can replace this. If I want to only overcome but there is no replacement for the actual cause it can’t hold
3. I realized that yes I can meditate well and I can work hard and balance stress a lot with meditation. However that’s what meditation is only partially for.
4. I realized simple things like wine can relax me too. Sauna can in high heat. So here and there are things that do well and can replace some I found.
5. I realized that nice family life can take some more of this spot. A good meal. Quality time.
6. I further found that I am extremely one sided. With work and meditation and addiction only.

I now worked actively with focus on balancing my life with much more hobbies family time quality time and sport. This is in my case what’s deeply needed. As I progress I can clearly say that my “problem” became way better. Much more manageable and much more of an indication for me of my level of balance. I am not 100% there yet. But I am convinced that these are key points and realizations that pave the way out.

I am working on my 365 day challenge and think I can manage to maintain with daily effort and mindfulness and this goal as one key thing in my life.
Once confirmed over a 365 day period I won’t consider myself having this issue anymore and I am strongly motivated to achieving this goal