Beach sexual stimulation

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by CuriousPerson, May 16, 2020.

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  1. CuriousPerson

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    do people comes back from beaches feeling horny?
    As a person from muslim society so i have never been to beaches but from TV i have got an idea that it looks like porn actreses walking in bikinis which could be quite arousing?

    so i think i shouldnt visit the beach while on PMO challenge? what is your say as a western?
     
  2. pump20

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    I would stay away from beaches, swimming pools, waterparks, or anyplace that skin shows because they will mess up the recovery especially coronavirus going on. Also, more likely going to have lustful thoughts that sends to PMO.
     
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  3. CuriousPerson

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    i see... but u know what after communicating and conversing with many western ppl especially those living in major cities and near red light and prostitution legal areas, they told me they no longer get horny on site of skin shows. many of my western friends dont get excited seeing a girl in bikini.

    so i am confused a little bit if thats so then porn viewing shouldnt pose a problem and one could become like western ppl who dont get aroused seeing a nude girl
     
  4. cd013

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    Beaches are on lockdown anyway right?
     
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  5. Getting horny does not mean you lose control. Go to the beach with your buddies and relax, man. A man knows how to control his emotions. It might be good practice for you. But stay safe.
     
  6. CuriousPerson

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    i get u but its damn arousing for a person like me who have never seen a girl naked in front of him in reality. or may be u are westerner so u know better how beaches effects ones psychology
     
  7. Awedouble

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    Those girls don't care about you.

    They don't know you exist.

    They probably wouldn't care if they DID know you.

    It depends on where you're at in the process. For me knowing this as a fact would cut down on it big time, but generally speaking when younger your libido may be completely oblivious to your mind that way. Still I thought to mention it point blank in case it gets through a little.

    There are different reasons why people in the west may be not turned on, desensitization might be a part of it.

    At a certain point, if you understand human psychology enough, you understand that self centeredness is not attractive - and while that doesn't directly correspond with being physically attractive as someone who lives in the West I can tell you it's damn prevalent. In terms of ones character it could be seen is rather ugly even.
     
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  8. ayanaambe115

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    In my locality I see red lights and prostitute girls naked, and I'm some times ogling over there at their mini skirts. I'm not sure whether is has something good or bad to contribute for my recovery. I thought as they are at least real girls with flesh and blood, this habit might not count as relapse. Do you have any suggestion in this regard ?? But surly this habit couldn't and can't cause me for M. I mean properly i could control it.
     
  9. CuriousPerson

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    So its good to be desensitise huh? Could one get desensitize to porn? Wouldnt it be great?
     
  10. Awedouble

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    Oh no that's not what I mean, I think in the West people may be desensitized to a girl in a bikini but that might escalate to things more like porn to turn them on which is not healthy.

    In general I don't think it's good to be desensitized to anything. You don't want to REACT to the sensitivity, but sensing things whether it's sexual in nature or otherwise is just picking up information.
     
  11. CuriousPerson

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    I see... but a desensitize person will never goes to porn after watching a gurl in bikini. Why would he?

    And yes i agree with the other part of just collecting information and not reacting. That was well said
     
  12. Awedouble

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    Because it takes more to become stimulated. It escalates, that's why people get into strange fetishes because what is called regular "vanilla" porn is not enough anymore. In this case a girl in bikini is not porn but what we call porn substitute in the mind of a porn addict, it would be like a drug addict drinking coffee. Some people are sensitive to even the relatively weak high caffeine produces, but for someone who is used to much greater highs it would be nothing. So it happens both with the kind of sensory stimulation and the sensitivity of the dopamine system in the brain.
     
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  13. I'm The Chosen One

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    Last summer, my mother, a friend of my mother, and I was on the beach.While the three of us were swimming, my mother told her friend that there was a topless woman on the beach.I was excited and asked where she was.(I'm not proud of it.)Then I looked at that topless woman 3 times.But I did not feel an excessive rush.I thought, I wasn't too aroused because my mother and my mother's friend were with me.But this is not an accurate guess.I'm not aroused because I had become desensitized to this kind of thing because of p...After long streaks , Even a cleavage started to arouse me...However, you do not need to stay away from the beach just for this reason.(except covid-19).Go to the beach and swim with your loved ones, have fun and enjoy the sun and the beach.You don't need to focus too much on sexual things.Just have fun and have a good time.I think this kind of activity keeps you away from PMO.

     
  14. Hi CP,
    STAY AWAY FROM BEACHES! In time you may be unaffected by the sights you see. But going by your tone that time is a long way off.
    Baywatch was one of the most successful TV series of all time. Was this because of great scripts? Terrific acting? The way it dealt with social issues?
    I'd answer an unequivocal NO to all of the above! It was a hit because it was soft porn. As a young man I thought there was nothing wrong with ogling semi naked women. In truth when I did so I felt no urge to masturbate whatsoever.
    That all changed when I got an internet connection at home. I quickly became addicted to PMO. Now a trip to the beach would be very dangerous for me. I could very likely fall foul of the law.
    Take care pal.
     
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  15. Mistersofty

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    Realistically, when you go to the beach, 90 percent of the people there would serve you better to put their clothes back on. At least that’s been my experience, but I guess it all depends on where you go.
     
  16. CuriousPerson

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    Dont u think the sight of a beautiful girl in bikini arouse u not that one starts masturbation right away but one says in his mind that he will ejaculate at home.
     
  17. CuriousPerson

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    Idk it is only me or every body that when i see a naked women i dont get excited or aroused but when i see a beautiful girl god damn arousal happen. A pertty face for me is a turnon.
     
  18. Awedouble

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    Yeah, I think you're more normal than many of us in the West. lol There are different possibilities, some people will be so bold as to rub up against a girl on the bus hopefully without them noticing - that is obvious really messed up and crosses some serious boundaries and you have to REALLY objectify the woman because they are basically counting on them being too distracted and not noticing. I don't know for a fact they watch porn but I think that is very likely.

    But for you, I think it may even help you to talk to girls and relate to their mind, see what they like and talk about those things so it isn't just physical. Assuming you're not looking to become a monastic or abstain from sex for life which it doesn't sound like you are, the best thing is basically to relate to them as a human being, on all other levels.
     
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  19. CuriousPerson

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    Hmmm this is turning into some cultural exchange group lol but tbh i find it strange that western dont turnOn by pretty girls instead they go for naked bodies. I can get desensitized into naked sexy bodies but cant be desensitized to pretty girls
     
  20. Hi CP,
    the sight of some women naked, however attractive, has no real effect on me. However if I find a woman alluring this changes.
    Viewing models etc in swimwear and lingerie is how I got addicted to PMO. But over time this became insufficient. I was drawn more and more to hardcore porn.
    PMO addiction gets worse and more sordid over time. Like all addicts we require an ever increasing dose to get the same hit. Like all diseases prevention is better than cure. However once we fap we will always have a propensity for it.
     
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