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BEAT YOUR LONGEST STREAK

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by Jefe Rojo, Nov 21, 2019.

  1. modern milarepa

    modern milarepa Fapstronaut

    Monk vs relationship (from a former monk perspective)

    Current streak
    : 474 days no PMO, semen retention

    I was a monk, I lived in a monastery, and also I was a voluntary celibate for many years, I had this notion since 10 y.o to be a free man and my happiness needed to be independent from any external source, including girls.

    At some point in university I decided to date girls, it wasn’t as bad as I thought and I can say some months with a girl taught me more about myself, than 10 years alone doing meditation.

    In Taoism celibacy is considered an advanced practice; they consider that to balance your sexual energy is more difficult while being single.

    At the beginning dating girls helped me to balance my sexual energy, also girls have helped me to work on myself, they act as a mirror of your own flaws, they can make you go crazy, angry, lustful if you don’t handle a relationship the right way.

    The problem of being alone is that you can simply ignore your own flaws and it won’t matter, with girls is more like being at war you are in the battlefield and if you don’t want to die you need to develop emotional, psychological and energetic strength so you can handle a girl.

    As you can see dealing with girls as been more for me a process to help me grow, they are more like a psychological work to me than a pleasure.

    Right now I still keep learning from girls, so I keep dating. Maybe later I’ll be back to be alone. Only time and my own evolution will tell.

    Conclusion
    -See your interactions with girls as a process of self-growth
     
  2. Really nice perspective.
     
  3. Dragar

    Dragar Fapstronaut

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  4. leu the warrior

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    Thanks for the support bro
     
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  5. leu the warrior

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  6. Quezatolah

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    That sucks, I was myself on the verge of relapsing last night but I've made it to day 18/12.

    I think when we see others fail it gives us an unconcious permission to fail ourselves, we must not fall for that mind trick, for me I got much more tempted yesterday because I saw others fail.
     
  7. Yes you are right. It is like continuous fall of wickets in Cricket (if you follow) sometimes.
    Nice work resisting the urges! Keep it up!
     
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  8. Quezatolah

    Quezatolah Fapstronaut

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    Thanks, I know things are getting bad when I start breaking my rules, aslong as I follow my own rules it's very unlikely I'm going to relapse so it's all about discipline.

    I'm going to try to limit my presence on this site, only come here once or twice a day.
     
  9. Karom

    Karom Fapstronaut

    1/67 Back on track! It's been a crappy start to my day but well I have to move on with life.
     
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  10. modern milarepa

    modern milarepa Fapstronaut

    475/730 days no PMO, semen retention
     
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  11. Dragar

    Dragar Fapstronaut

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  12. 1/207
    Well I have vowed to the God that I won't masturbate ever again. And prayed to give me strength to complete this lifetime vow.
     
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  13. MichaelGuadalupe

    MichaelGuadalupe Fapstronaut

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    Joining the challenge today.
    Day 8 of 115 (Streak broken July 14, 2021).
    Where do you all find your motivation?

    -MG
     
  14. modern milarepa

    modern milarepa Fapstronaut

    475 days SR
    46 days no sex

    Friendship, no more girls & austerity

    Girls:
    This fitness girl I dated two weeks ago texted me yesterday telling why I wasn't talking to her anymore, I didn't feel like replying, also she hasn't tried to talk to me too. I think I'll just let her go. I could easily have sex with her but there is something negative and heavy about her energy also she's coming too strong, that text yesterday was very uncalled for.

    Yesterday I went to see the girl I'm dating at her house, it was good. I'm going to stay with this girl, we are almost like friends I never had that with a girl, she'll be my first female friend.

    She only had sex once and I'm not certain if we are going to have sex soon, we have seen each other since two weeks ago. I don't really care about it, but at the same time this doesn't help to see her as a partner, at the moment I enjoy her company and talking to her.

    Friendship is something I rarely experience maybe in my teenage years like 15 years ago. I'm pretty much a loner, except I date girls from time to time.
    So I appreciate this girl's friendship even more than sex or an actual romantic relationship. Even do we kiss and all that but no sex. She also says, she doesn't want to rush things up because it has turned bad for her in the past. I haven't mention sex too, I told her that when she feels ready we'll do it. There's also some flaws in her character and inmaturity that doesn't help me to see her as something serious, maybe this can change, only time will tell.

    Some exes have reached out to me these past days wanting to see me and have sex, I simply ignored them. It's so great to not be dependent on sex, nothing compels you or makes you dependable on someone else.

    Free of lust = freedom

    For the time being I'm going to take a complete break from girls probably until march/April next year I need to focus on my studies 110%. Maybe if a girl I like a lot comes in my way or if this girl I'm seeing right now we become serious I'll reconsider girls again in this period of time. I just don't want to spend any time or mental energy on girls right now. I have to study like crazy.

    Austerities:
    Day 1/30
    I'm going to do some austerities this always helped me in the past to have more energy and a sharp mind.

    1.I'll be out of the internet or any screen unless it's for studying and nofap posting but mostly on my journal, making threads and in the challenges. Also always open to help if someone pm me.

    2.no girls except the girl I'm seeing or if another one I like a lot comes in the way.

    3. Waking up at 4am or even earlier.
    4. Not lying on my back in any seat.
    5. Chaste look
    6. No music

    7. Simple food, no junk food or anything like it, maybe an ice cream or a pizza very rarely only if I'm on a date with a girl and most likely only after having sex, I don't really like junk food.

    8. Cold showers
     
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  15. leu the warrior

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  16. Welcome aboard @MichaelGuadalupe !
    To have a better future and not the same past motivates me to stay on the noble path of NoFap.

    Inspiring! This is some great planning and prioritization. Strength to you to follow all the austerities brother!
     
  17. Quezatolah

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    19/12 days, I hope I can keep going like this, some stressful life events are looming in the horizon.
     
  18. modern milarepa

    modern milarepa Fapstronaut

    476/730 days no PMO, semen retention
     
  19. MichaelGuadalupe

    MichaelGuadalupe Fapstronaut

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    Day 9/115 (Streak broken 7/14/21)

    Today I realize that I am susceptible to porn when I lack motivation and a true sense of purpose. This is when I find idle time. This is when there is no need to be sober as there is not a compelling vision to be sober for. Does anyone know what I’m talking about? Does this resonate with you?

    -MG
     
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  20. modern milarepa

    modern milarepa Fapstronaut

    This is an advice that my father a real tantric master told me today

    “First of all recognize the illusion of this world, the materiality and mundanity of women in general, you need to have clear concepts about the deceit of the material life so this way you find the motivation to search the inner life which is what is really truthful."
     

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