We tend to perceive the things around us through our senses and intellect and therefore, tend to create our own reality or an interpretation of reality. And that is why we suffer in our own self made cages. Reality is reality. It doesn't need no explanation. It's what's going on all around you. After reading all that hippie stuff, you're probably wondering how this is going to help you beat urges. So this is how I do it: Suppose I'm sitting on the sofa and I get hit with crazy uncomfortable urges. What I do is I start becoming aware of the place where I'm sitting and my weight on the sofa and my being. I start becoming aware of my surroundings and also my urges. Everything in a non judgemental way. I hear sounds in a non judgemental way and I just notice the place of silence from where they come. I see in a non judgemental, silent and meditative fashion at the objects and their presence in the room. The stillness they have and space they occupy in this vast space called a room. I breathe quietly and deeply and anchor myself into the reality and this gives me strength because the present moment and its stillness gives me the realization that things aren't really going bad at all and its all one happening. This is how I derive my strength. And urges no longer seem a problem. It's as though I'm standing on a peak and noticing the urges that seem ridiculous doing whatever they temporarily do in the valley below. If you think if I'm full of shit, let me know.