Because I have watched femdom - I dont know what to do in bed

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by bayern12, May 19, 2018.

  1. bayern12

    bayern12 Fapstronaut

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    Hey guys,

    Im a footfetish and femdom addict. Because of that i have PIED.
    I have know idea what to do in bed with a woman. It is so sad. My friends watched regular porn and they know how to have sex, positions etc. How can i learn to have multiple sex position without watching regular porn?!?! I dont want to watch porn every again!! I know that if I will watch regular porn, than I will eventually relapse to FEMDOM FUCKING PORN.

    HELP !! I dont have any sexual experience. WHAT CAN I DO
     
  2. Tiburon727

    Tiburon727 Fapstronaut

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    To be honest, I do not think you need to worry about it. Focus on getting clean and beating this addiction. Then focus on finding a girl you want to spend the rest of your life with. The rest will fall into place. Important thing though is recovering.

    No need to compare yourself with your friends. A relationship wih a girl is far more important then treating her like a sex object. Focus on relationship and not sex.

    Best of everything.
     
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  3. nopmo101

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    Firstly you have to do 90 Days reboot to make your fetish dissapear.
     
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  4. rikvanachteren

    rikvanachteren Fapstronaut

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    Do not worry about it my friend! It all goes without saying. I have also experienced this. The same thoughts as you. Although I experience PIED, I have been able to have sex with three people in my life. It all goes without saying. It is pretty simple. Your friend goes up, you (or she) puts him in, and let's party. Trust me, it goes without saying !!
     
  5. bayern12

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    Thanks for replying my friends. I had an humiliating weak. A girl that i was dating broke up with me after I didnt had an ERECTION. WTF?! just after one time that i couldnt get it up she broke up with me!!!! wtf??!?! I am alone now, making my reboot. hope that things will get better, and I will be able to have sex like a man.
     
  6. rikvanachteren

    rikvanachteren Fapstronaut

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    My friend, listen good! Forget about her! Sure, it's fucked up now. But, in three months you have so many more opportunities. If i can say.. You are not ready for a girlfriend right now. You will be in three months! When she sees you in August.. she will regret that she has dumped you. Work on yourself!! Forget her.
     
  7. bayern12

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    thanks man !! I am on the eight day now. I am dating a different girl. I avoid sex !! I want to try sex just when i get to August as you say. what is your status man? you are on reboot 2?
     
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  8. waleedshiekh

    waleedshiekh New Fapstronaut

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    Just date NoFap for 90 days and keep motivating me also . Forget what has happened and what is happening. You will be better at many things after rebooting.
     
  9. bayern12

    bayern12 Fapstronaut

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    hey dude whats up? did you made any progress? im on day 45 lol :)
     
  10. ukbritishbloke

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    To an older man, this is interesting and in a way amusing (but pleased don't think I'm making fun of you. I'm really not).

    When I was your age, I had never seen any porn video or film. I have never seen a photo of a man penetrating a woman. I had only read some porn magazines that showed women naked. But I knew what to do, and so will you. It kinda "comes" naturally.

    Porn is not educative, and you *really* don't need ever to look at it to know anything about sex. Your friends really don't know anything from the porn they've watched. All they know is how to have really bad sex. Sex is likely to be better for you than for them.

    So try to be like guys from a long time ago, who had no porn, or much more basic, less harmful porn. You should want to kiss a woman and touch parts of her body. You should want her to touch you. You should want your dick inside her a couple of ways, and want to lick her. You need to think about contraception. That's all you need to know. You'll be fine.

    If you want to know about "positions" then read The Joy of Sex. You don't need to, though. "Positions" are just the three or fours different ways to lie when you have sex, that are easy to work out when you're having fun together.

    There are lots of young women your age who haven't had sex, and lots who have but who'll have no problem dating a guy who hasn't. The best way to learn about sex is just to get a girlfriend, have fun together, and see what you end up doing. I've been there and done that, and I can tell you *because I know from experience* that it's 1,000,000 times better than any porn.

    Porn is a lot less interesting than watching the World Cup on TV. It's like watching a fake World Cup or something, with bad actors pretending. Sex with a girl is like actually scoring the winning goal in the World Cup final.
     
  11. bayern12

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    Thanks for this comment my friend. These days im having a lot of tests in Law school. Im on 46 day oa nofap. Hope to find a cute girl after I finish the tests:) thanks again great comment. I hope that I will overcome pied+ performance anxiety with a girl that I find attractive and understanding.
     

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