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Become the best version of myself

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by Bemybest, Dec 23, 2017.

  1. Bemybest

    Bemybest Fapstronaut

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    I wanted ask something. I am not watching porn but what might be some strong reasons for abstaining from masturbation as well?
     
  2. crisx073

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    You are all right.

    Super 3D . SUPER. I had a list of my personal ideas on personal growth to be a better person.

    No porn no masturbation

    Be in shape.

    • Gym or sports. Sleep well. Eat good healthy and eat what you like .

    • No drugs, Cigarettes . alcohol are also drug. About alcohol I can write a book.

    • REMEMBER OUR THINKS CAME OUT FROM OUR BRAIN. BRAIN IS IN THE BODY, BRAIN IS A PART OF THE BODY. HEALTHY BODY … HEALTHY THINKS! SIMPLE
    Stay out,

    • FROM YOURSELF with the mind out of yourself, get focus out of your mind.

    • FROM YOUR HOUSE Stay out of your house out of your sofa.
    Social

    • No social, no facebook , istagram, tinder, badoo or others. MANDATORY.

    • If possible no television. I am live without television from 2 years. And have a 7 y.o. baby with me half time.

    • Approach everyone girls, boys, man, woman , old, young, nice. ALL. Be social real social with real people. Be social in real not in phone.

    • In all relations think “ what can I do good for this person? How can I make her/him happy? How can I improve his /her life” ….. Always think to give a positive contribute to the world.

    • Feel yourself proud of you. Confident. Go out also alone, without needs (you love yourself) , without need to get drunk to be happy. Out alone no alcohol no drug and approach the world. The entire world……… inner game …..” I am Cristian this is myself, you like ? good. You do not like it , good. J “
    Deserve

    • You deserve, you do not feel that you deserve something you want. Deeply inside do not deserve. Speak with experts.
    Experts

    • Look for an expert, make a research, contact him, pay him. And then …. Do everything he say and he teach. No doubts or conflict. DO IT!
    Modelling

    • Study and learn from the other that reach you targets. No envy. Mouve from envy to study. You are better than me there, now I am studying you, and I will be better than you shortly.

    • Study books. My favorite are about charisma, body language, seduction, persuasion, BUT IN ANY CASE READ!!!
    Targets



    • Fix targets , I write a list daily of daily targets. I wrote and check a list of long terms target. SMART system is good.

    • Explain to the world your needs, your targets, your wants. Each single rejection is a simple feedback
    Hobbies , at least two.

    Love yourself, do to yourself what you will do to people that you love.

    Variety, change , deferent : streets, places, pubs, trips, partners , work , gym, . CHANGE!

    I fix to my self new workshops, new clubs, new partners, how can I say relations were I have to be better. Good and clean house, car, good body, good shape.

    Be your best version.



    Thank you guys. You supper.
     
    Last edited: Dec 11, 2018
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  3. Innervision

    Innervision Fapstronaut

    Primarily, one reason might be that masturbation is profoundly associated with porn for most people. By keeping the practice, you keep reinforcing the same brain pathways linked to porn use. With some time (I would say AT LEAST 90 days), I guess is up to you to reintroduce the M part to your lifestyle. It depends greatly on your goals with all this. Maybe if you keep abstaining from P and M you can progress effectively on aspects as self-control, build confidence, deal with social anxiety, better connections with people and so on. In my personal view, P e M are complementary practices and must both be avoided in order to develop a positive and integrated lifestyle.
     
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  4. Life_racer

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    Keep it up.... Bro
     
  5. Bemybest

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    Great post! Will save it for future reference. Also will take a printout of it and would stick in on my door.
    Thanks for your motivation and support.
     
  6. moneyway-344

    moneyway-344 New Fapstronaut

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    Dont stress out or worry because you dont have a gf! Bro stay on the grind always. do what you gotta do and start improving yourself physically, mentally, etc. Females arent even worth it man they just gonna add on top of the problems we all have. Stay focused no matter what. God sees you working hard and will reward you with something amazing. Hope you the best, and just know you got people right here that can help you.

    Cheers! Stay prayed up!
     
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  7. Bemybest

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    " Just know you got people right here that can help you"
    Thanks for such assurance and support. It was really helpful. I hope I continue to receive this kind of support.
     
  8. Bemybest

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    Yesterday , I had slept at around 4 am after partying with my family till 10 pm and then studying intemitintermi till 3.
    I had planned to get up at 9 as I have an exam on Sunday but couldn't. Then upset because of this fact I slept till 2 pm.
    Now, this makes me feel lazy and low on energy as I haven't been able to work accroding to my plan. I was procrastinating a lot till 3 pm put then somehow I listened to my raitional decision maker and took a bath. Now I have to study but I am confused whether to study at home or go to a library.
    I am really stressed about my exams and also I don't want to procrastinate and end up doing nothing.
    Please help!!!
     
  9. Bemybest

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    I want an accountability partner who also needs to study or someone who goes through some of the problems as I do.
    Also, I need to counter the loneliness I feel. I can only study once I am at peace with myself.
     
  10. sagia

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    Learn something new everyday and you are on your way towards becoming the best version of yourself!
     
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