Becoming 24 this feb. the 24th! AND STILL NOT LAID

Bro I feel you.. I'm 18 and I haven't even kissed a girl. It's all about becoming more comfortable around women and not just objectifying and staring at them.

 

Brother,

It's in our nature to want to be with a partner, us guys and girls were made for each other and, when we're outside a relationship, it's only normal to feel lonely. However, DON'T LISTEN TO ALL THE BULLSHIT THIS WORLD TELLS US ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS. Look, being in a romantic relationship is great but you do not have to be in one to be happy and that's where I believe our society lies to us. Any TV show (I'm binging friends at the moment) tells us that we must be in a relationship to be happy, that if we're not having sex all the time there's something wrong with us, and I'm telling you these are all lies. There is no reason you can't be happy and fulfilled without a sexual relationship.

The perfect girl will come, let it happen, let it be organic, don't force it. And in the mean brother, ENJOY LIFE. Work on improving yourself so that when you do meet your other, you'll be giving them the best version of yourself- not the porn addicted childish version. And lastly, enjoy the freedoms that you'll eventually lose when you are in a committed relationship. (Being in a relationship is great and all!) but once your committed to another person, you now have TWO people in your life to worry about. You won't have as much time and to put it simply, many of the freedoms that entail being single, you can kiss good-bye to.

Cheers brother and good luck,

Matthew5:28

 

You are not alone man.
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I think mine was around that time too maybe a year earlier (not sure). I had GF-s before that, but I had an issue and feared to get all the way with any of them. But then I met a girl who I really liked and we had a great time and after we went to the hotel I couldn't get up...that was miserable ending to the day. She took it well and didn't blame me and made me feel comfortable. We tried again couple of months and it went better and from that point it was ok. What I am trying to say don't rush it and choose your partner carefully. It took me at least 10 years after that to realize the reason from my ED, so my suggestion take care of your addiction before you go for it.

 

Well it doesn't matter much, it will matter that you get laid when you've gotten far enough into the process and you feel you need to find a girl to be intimate with and not celibate forever. In fact it's an achievement you haven't. In a oversexualised world people lose it as young as 13. You've trained yourself in a way that you have a certain set of expectations. It's good.

 

I believe porn addiction is 100% behind my ED. All research aside I know how I feel. You might not have it, but you can test it.
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When you make out and do other stuff before intercourse you shoudl get a boner, which wasn't happening to me, but I could get it by just watching porn for a minute without touching anything. I thought when the real deal comes it will be fine, but I was frozen like a dear in headlights. Quit P completely before trying, that way it wouldn't matter if you have the issue or not. Also you can freeze for the first time, but its not sign of ED, nervousness can play huge part, but if that is the case you should be able to recover quickly and perform.

 

Gonna be 23 and it sucks. Words cant be typed to express what being a virgin at this point has done to me. But im trying my damndest to change that

 

I remember my anxiety brother...it was tough, but remember you are not alone and some girls will love it too.

 

Hope so man. Just feel like for the first time in my life ill be able to perform sexually if it happened. Im just scared it wont . And idk most girls dont want some older virgin whose gonna suck and not know what theyre doing. Its sucks. Buts its a whole i put myself in. Now just tryna dig myself out

 

lol 23 is not old man. You are in the pick of your powers. Let me know some more about you. Are you shy, did you ever had a GF, any practice with girls. I am 34 now so I kind of have exp with what you went through. I can give you advise, but it can get "messy".

 

Excellent brother!

And yeah, I think you're right. I don't like the cheap, spineless milenials appearing in front of our eyes. It's interesting to think (and this isn't just a question for you and I, but a question for our whole generation), has this whole sexual revolution/sexual liberation which has brought with it widespread pornography, raunchy movies and TV shows, and so much more, has it really liberated us? Or has it enslaved us? Surely there were work-gender problems in the 50's and before but damn! the respect men had for women. Giving up one's seat on a bus for a woman was instinct back in the day. Promiscuity and that alike were almost nonexistent. "Now in 2016 we're sexually free," but again I ask you, are we? Every man who's crawled their way towards NoFap was trapped by the bullshit of this world- the very bullshit that tells us porn is cool and the bullshiters who try's to jam sexuallity at us through every possible media.

It wasn't always like this. There was a time when the masses were in control of their minds and their bodies. But that time's long gone...