becoming a live-in slave

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by graham55, May 22, 2018.

  1. graham55

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    Can you link me to this thread? I want this to be true but it’s rare to find stories like this.

    It reminds me of the “50 shades of grey” movie. The guy starts out submissive since he was abused by this woman and turns into a dominant, ive tried to delve into the truth behind it but found not a great deal of information.
     
  2. g2stop

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    I don’t think abusing a woman is the answer to your problem
     
  3. Orest

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    Its not abusing though,its maledom,there are a lot of differences between the two,the first being they both want to do it!
     
  4. Orest

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    dude it wasnt actually a thread but an opinion given to a thread and i havent found it yet.Yeah man i also saw the movie it was awesome and thats actually the reason i became interested in all of these and i believe submissive people can change because of that movie!
     
  5. Orest

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    Also there is another thread about a guy who cured his femdom fetish by praying to god everyday so i suggest you do that too here's a link:https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/how-jesus-cured-my-femdom-fetish.213264/
     
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  6. Orest

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    what im saying above is how to fix your lifestyle,i mean,i heard you live in your parents house,if you read carefully what i write above you will be able to organize yourself(if you havent already) and get some things done,this will also help getting rid of your fetish because you wont feel like a loser anymore(if you feel like that)
     
  7. DiFaaprio

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    As a muslim you shouldve used this holy month to try and reset yourself
     
  8. TimeToQuitNow

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    Facts

    @graham55 Eid Mubarak brother :)
     
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  9. Hoorak

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    Interesting. I will write now something which could be a surprise or a trigger, whatever. I got alot into femdom , basically was obssed with it , had fantasies for hours and itvwas a really hard thing ( the hardest) to stop watching it. But the number 1 reason why i watched was bc the woman were extremly hot to me. If not i would not be so interested into it. Yet i embrace patriarchy, so to say , if i would have an girlfriend i have the saying and u listen or we are done. A bit oldschool but i dont care, with emancipated woman i dont want to live, rather live alone. My mind started changing alot after months of abstience at then i actually reliased how woman behave this days. Its a long process, but i call it back to the roots
    Bit this addiction is hell, i dont watched anything related to fem.. for a year now and i got couple days ago alot of fantasies which lead me very close to relapse. It goes so slowly out of the brain. I still have not a desire for normal sex, well sometimes, only sometimes.
     
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  10. chapuleta

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    Hi, check my post about femdom and my pornography addiction, waht you say here is really what im sttrugling.

    https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/femdom-crush-fetish-cuckold-and-other-stuff.235521/
     
  11. graham55

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    14 days and pmod twice after searching for videos again for hours around blackmail and cei.

    A lot has changed since when I first started this thread, I no longer feel hopeless and think it was “my place” to be a slave to some old hag.

    It’s obviously due to my childhood and repeated abuse and trauma. So I’m committed to trying to heal and move on from this area.

    Maybe the answer has been hiding in plain sight all along? And that simply if you want to quit you can, no one forces you to do anything but if you decide it’s worth more to you to quit then commit and don’t look back.

    I’ve obviously tried this several times in the past which is why i think it’s ok to ask for help. When I get my finances sorted I will start looking at therapy again to work through my childhood trauma.

    It’s funny watching these videos now takes so long to find the right one because I finally see them for what they really are.

    Acting, porn induced fantasy, not reality, all stemmed from desentization to porn .

    90 days let’s go, day 0
     
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  12. Hoorak

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    Take it seriously man , u are very deep into this , 90 days will probably will not be enough. I thought to that 90 days and im fine ---- wrong. Even after a year without anything watching related to this fetish i get crazy urges and fantasies, not to mention wet dreams to a femdom scene. This shit gets so sloely out of the head., i think of myself will i ever be normal and dont have this perverted desire just to want normal sex. This fetish drills im your mind deeper than anything it becomes a true obsession. But slow improvment is important step by step to glory,, hopefully
     
  13. TimeToQuitNow

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    Glad to see you haven't given up. Keep moving!
     
  14. graham55

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    15 days, had a lapse today. It's weird because it feels like i'm kind of forcing it now. The material no longer has a charge or a 'hold' over me as it once did. I see through alot of the videos and can see how much of an illusion this industry is, with makeup, production and lighting etc.

    I decided and chose to lapse, after i spent a few hours watching videos, from checking my femdom email and browsing mistresses. I will delete everything and everything related to femdom, and never look back from today. But i will also go out and attempt to recondition through life real experiences with woman.

    You can't change the past, but i have to put it all behind me and go forward. Being the best i can be. Moving towards that rather than away from it. I might be in a bit of a grey area when it comes to my sexual tastes, that's fine i will work on that. But no more porn, no more femdom online.

    I just have this sick, fantasy i have to get rid off. I think the best way to do that, is it act like it's gone for good, making that decision, and it's pretty clear atleast in the 'online virtual' department, isn't going to be where i get what i truly desire whatever that might be.

    Onwards and upwards, i move on today, i take today as a blessing to finally let go of something that no longer serves me, and i go towards my dream and goals in life. To find a beutiful girl who loves and likes me for me, so lets go.

    Day 0 today, never looking back.
     
  15. Fightyourlowerself

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    Hey Graham, I think you would benefit from that book by Abu Hamid Al Ghazali called "Breaking the two desires". Look it up, you won't regret it.
     
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  16. Golddis

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    Relax Man its a crippling addiction but you will get over it.

    I was like you watched Femdom from 15->25, (27y now) heavily, eventually little by little I got over it.
    Those fantasies just amplify when you PMO frequently and your brain craves for more heavy stuff (CEI,Blackmail etc.)

    Have you noticed if you dont PMO for like 10 days you could easily get off just by watching Instagram photos or anything light?

    I still watched ocassionaly some Joi femdom in winter like <5 times but I knew I was kinda already over the addiction (I had previous NoFap brakes) now im 45 days into NoFap (longest), and those fantasies and all the images on my brain have faded off. Atleast the heaviest and more nasty stuff like CEI dont even seem appealing at all to me.

    I can feel inside me that my decision to not watch porn this time is final. I have gotten stronger every NoFap period.

    From reading all your posts you are getting stronger allso, dont stress about it you WILL beat this addiction. Im sure :)

    I think people who are submissive by their fantasies, it will allways stick it with you. But in healthy way.

    Normal sex feels better for me everyday, or more compelling.
    I would still prefer sex where girl dominates me but not in sick ways. You know facesitting and some stuff like that. Its in our nature that we want to be submissive in sex and there is nothing bad about it.

    The thing that is verybad is to binge watch some heavy porn all the time and pay online domi etc. Its not healthy and the fantasies just get uglier and uglier.


    You probably allso are bored in your life so your brain craves some exitement. Try to look for it elsewhere.
     
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  17. TimeToQuitNow

    TimeToQuitNow Fapstronaut

    This is so true. I always notice that. But after a few jerks femdom is the only thing that works
     
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  18. Mr.Chips

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    Thanks!

    Stick how ?!

    But is it natural ? Is it easy to find such women ?
     
  19. Golddis

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    I mean I can enjoy normal sex a with my partner. But I still get a bit more excited from acts where she is slightly more in control. Like when im licking him or she is sitting above me.

    And yes its normal to do stuff like this in long relationship or to ask partner. Those are not some extreme things.
    Its ok to have fantasies and stuff that get you more excited.

    But its not ok to have repulsive porn addiction where you watch damaging femdom videos to virtual girls frequently. Where you increase the intesity. The more you watch the more numb you get to normal stuff.
     
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