becoming a live-in slave

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by graham55, May 22, 2018.

  1. Gmork

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    Excellent!
    Can you get away from the environment for a few days?
    Just a total break from routine and familiarity?

    . . and don't worry about what @Marlon-Brando just said.
    Obviously, 'natural selection' is all about sitting in a lonely room - spamming people on the Internet.
     
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  2. ukbritishbloke

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    This could be right.
     
  3. Mike Bonanno

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    I was just about to suggest serious Digital Detox but Brother @Jack of Clubs was faster.
    This is a great advice and if I may, I suggest you quit using internet and smartphone/ tablet for a period of time. Switch your phone to some old school brick that doesn't have internet connection and get out of your house. It doesn't matter where you go; just go outside and away from your computer. Go for a walk or read a book in a coffee shop for example. Get yourself new hobbies/ activities that doesn't require use of computer or smartphone (extra points if they require real life socializing). Learn to talk to strangers in coffee shops, start jogging or go to gym. Possibilities are endless really.

    Anything in life is better than spend your whole life in front of screen. And I'm not even talking about just porn; using social media is actually making you less social and depressed as you see other peoples carefully curated lives and naturally compare their fabulous looking lives to your own boring life. We all know that what we see in social media is just highlights of otherpeoples lives which represents 1% of their actual life, but somehow we slowly start to believe that they are living that prefect life every single moment of their life, which we are not. And that causes depression, anxiety and stress to us.

    Quit internet for 30 days and concentrate on something else which you can do outside your house and doesn't require computer. If after 30 days you feel that you want to come back, you can if you really want to.

    Give it a try Brother. That's all I'm saying.

    - Mike
     
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  4. graham55

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    Link me to a thread where someone who has had pre-porn femdom has gotten over it and i'll salute you. In regards to your comments about willpower, if that's that was needed to get over an addiction then everyone would be cured. I'll explain, an addict has a addiction and decides he wants to quit, using what? His brain? the thing that got him into the addiction and is now addicted? I wish it was all about willpower but i think there's more too it, or maybe i'm just not using enough willpower, eitherway you calling me a pathetic, not a real man, without natural selection but i've just looked at your threads and seen you wanting to see an escort, i feel sorry for you
     
  5. graham55

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    if it's so easy why are you on this forum? And why do you have threads about struggling with going to see escorts?? You're like a drug addict shaming another who's an acoholic? You must really have some pent up frustration, i'm sorry that you feel that way.
     
  6. MasterRoshi

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    Hi dude, hang in there! This disease is strong.

    Just remember, we can’t wish this away. If we were capable of stopping on our own, we would, and this website would be one small sentence on a home page that would read “step 1. Stop and you’re done”

    We need to take some steps to combat this disease. I fought for 10 years trying to quit, and it seems only when I did some specific things was I able to stay sober and (for now) lose the compulsion and mental cravings.

    I’m here for you if you need. Send me a PM and we can chat more about wha to have been doing to stay sober.

    P.s. I’m very familiar with online degradation and being forced to do things that later harm myself and others... so I can relate to your struggle.
     
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    Holy crap this thread got rude quickly....

    We have a disease!!! Some of us in here don’t have a problem, and just want to stop jerking Off cuz they’re bored and wanna challenge themselves with something....but many of us are real sex addicts (which as of recently is now recognized as a real disease.)...

    So best to be supportive and helpful when possible because the degradation and self loathing caused by this disease can lead to suicide for example... so please proceed with love and compassion when ever possible

    There is no easy way to kill a fetish. That’s why we’re here. If it was easy we would just do it... it requires effort. And very specific action. I wish it wasn’t this way, but it is.

    I spent many many many days as an online gay slave. I was forced to do horrid things like drive around naked masturbating, lick a toilet seat in public restroom, urinate on my face in the bathroom at work, do anal insertion that possibly has slightly damaged my rectum and a few other things which I won’t mention in public forum.

    Along with this fetish I also had other very horrible fetishes that we can talk about in private as well.

    YOURE NOT ALONE!!! And there is hope for recovery. You might not like the recovery path, you might be scared of it or you might embrace it and find the relief is worth the hard work. I hope for the ladder cuz this disease is the worst!
     
  8. MasterRoshi

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    Dude stop.... there’s no place in this forum for attitudes like this....

    Btw where’s your day counter? You doing ok?? How’s sobriety going for you?

    We’re here to help each other not put each other down. This is a hopeless disease. And to further add to someone’s misery is simply bad form...
     
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  9. graham55

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    I have the urge to hit rock bottom before i want to change, and i know what to do -more depraved acts things that are irreversible like scat/blackmail etc.. I don't know why its just i feel like if i don't hit rock bottom I can't change, anyone else feel this way?
     
  10. MasterRoshi

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    Yes and no.

    Yes, because I couldn’t stop and didn’t know how and thought maybe I needed to do more before I was done.

    No, because there’s always another level to this disease and the end is jail and/or death. So a bottom can always go deeper.

    Better to quite when you’re done not when your disease is done.
     
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    Bruh that's the dark arts right there.:emoji_bust_in_silhouette:
     
  13. zaba99

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    Héyyy Dude , this is dope !!! like seriously what you have said is 100% right , when i was kid and i was watching tv shows and i see hot rich womens , i thought i am not enough and that my only way to be close to that beauty is to be her servant/slave and then maybe something sexual will happen ...

    BUT , what is your explanation for foot-fetish ? i see it like like a separate thing , since i have heard that a lot of peoples have it but are not into femdom ...

    do you think that foot-fetish also a result of low-self-esteem ?
    Foot-fetish now is the missing part of the puzzle to understand everything !!!
     
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  14. graham55

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  15. Mike Bonanno

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    Stay Strong Brother!
    We're all here to help and support you :)
     
  16. Arms.R.heavy

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    I wanted to share a quote from the book Your Brain On Porn, someone suffering from the same thing as you are :
     
  17. MasterRoshi

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    Thanks for this! It gives me hope that I can normalize, with PMO but also with other unhealthy habits that have been formed in my life
     
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  18. zaba99

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    @graham55
    I think i have some tips can helps but i need you to answer some question so i know if this can apply to you ;)
    -how often do you go to night clubs and bars ?
    -how old are you ?
    -how is you physics ? ( do you have any big insecurity like height or weight ... )
    -what do you do are you studying or working ?
     
  19. graham55

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    Nightclubs and bars once/twice a week depending on if i lapse then I'll usually skip it the weeks i fall into binge.

    how old am i? 22

    No real big insecurities I'm quite fit athletic train 3x a week, when I'm not lapsing. Used to be insecure about my feet which is surprising considering i have a foot fetish.

    finished an engineering degree have been working in a bar as a bartender for the last year or so


    anddd i lapsed last night
     
  20. g2stop

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    I have struggled with this for so long and now have hit 14days. I think journaling every thought that leads to a relapse is very important to help understand what is going on.

    Why do you want to be broken and suicidal? Why do you pay women to make you feel so bad about yourself?

    Is it because you already feel bad about yourself and if someone does it for you, you no longer have the responsibility of causing the bad feelings, but can blame it on someone else? But when they stop, you feel responsible again and have to find someone to take away the feelings of responsibility again by being harsher and more distracting?

    Can you see that this will only end in your suicide, that is the rock bottom you should avoid at all costs
     

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