Been crushing on the same girl for 4 years

Oneitis is never ever worth it. Neither is pursuing a woman with serious mental issues like schizophrenia, bipolar, borderline personality disorder, or narcissism.

 

Read volume one of Rollo Tomassi’s “The Rational Male” and make yourself your Mental Point of Origin and also spin plates.

 

What is like dating a girl with schizophrenia did she ever told you her cat told her you were cheating on her or things like that. What impact had her mental disease in the relationship?

 

The appeal of mentally ill chics is that they are easy; but the trouble isn’t worth the sex that you get.

 

Get your shit together man. Once you do you are not going to give the time a day to this kind of woman. This all time wasted is on you. Stop trying to fix people, fix yourself and spend your time with healthy people.

 

You are still not getting the point... why keep waisting time with a person that have mental issues when you can spend it with woman as good as her but without those mental issues?
You are attached to a woman that is never going to be able to give you what you want. Instead of accepting the fact that she is not girlfriend material and moving on to a healthier woman, you are still trying to make it work with a woman is never going to work. It's always going to be something because she is damaged. You are not seen that stuff yet because you have too much attach to her. No matter how much you want it to work with her, is not going to work and you are going to waist a lot of time and emotions.

Also, everything you say make it really clear that you are way more into her that she is into you. I really don't know if she is into you at all.
Examples (only from this post):

And what about her?? A couple is between 2 people. It only going to work if both of them work to gave a good one. If you are the only working for it then she is not interested in it.

That's the excuse she gave you to not go to your city, when a woman is into a guy she will do anything to be with him man.

Nope, you are making excuses for her because you don't want to see what is really happening or you don't want to accept it.

You said it yourself, you are the only one making the effort once and again. She is not making any effort to be with you.

Yes, and you are still trying to make it work with a woman that is not making any effort to be with you. You wasted 4 years of your life in a rollercoster with this woman and you get nothing.. how much time are you going to waste?

Istead of looking for a healthy woman, you are trying to make it work with a woman that have mental issues. Why?

Another things woman tell to a guy when they are not interested in them and need space. She is not going to be straigh with the fact she is not into you, she is going to make a subtle comment like this and hope you get the hint and walk away.

You are only going to be friend because she is not letting you be nothing more. You let yourself be in friendzone, she drag you in his life and is using you to her will.

It wasn't about the timing. You are still blaming timing or other stuff instead of accepting the fact that you are the only one interested in this working.

So? when a woman is in love with a man, his man is her rock and everything that happens in her life, she is going to be by her side to confort her. She will never pull away from his man when shit happens, so if she pulls away then she is not into you and depression and stuff is just another excuse to walk away from you without telling you directy she is not that into you.

That's what happens when you don't pay attention to red flags and do what you shouldn't be doing.

Again, you are the only one trying... how many times she tryied? When a woman wants to be with you, she will move the earth to be with you. If she is not making any effort she is not into you.

She maybe liked you in the past, now she is not. If she would she would be making the effort to make it work with you. The fact that she isn't make it really clear she is not into you anymore. She is not going out of her way to see you or make you happy, you are the only one doing it and you are really blind to the fact she is doing nothing.

It doesn't... it's still there to the point to keep posting about her in this forum. The womans of my life that I let go are totally gome from my day to day life. I never speak or even think about them, and if they ask me out I really don't care about them.
I can bet that this woman call you to see you you will run to see her, so don't lie to yourself.

Always you.. never her..

maybe at the biginning, now she is not into you. No matter how much you like her and want to be with her, she is not into you anymore. Stop proyecting your emotions to her and start to see reality the way it is, you are really into her and she is not into you.

No she isn't, she just don't want it to happen. You are just justifing the fact she is doing nothing to be with you.

Woman naturally know what to do. When a woman is attacted to a man she is going to be all over him. When not.. she is going to behave they way she is behaving.

Another excuse.. you are really buying all the garbish excuses she make to avoid going to your city.

Why to settle for a relationship when you are making all the effort? do you really think that your value is so low that you need to be in a relationship were you are the only one giving and making the effort to make it work?

Read again previous post of yours and all the other examples I gave you to make you see she is just a friend and is not into you anymore.

"There is no worse blind man than the one who doesn’t want to see"

 

I know you do well with woman you are not interested with, but when you really like a woman you are cluless.

Her actions show me she is not into you, a lot less into you that you are into her.

Hugh red flag. Move on with your life, is not your job to fix her. Don't be "captain save a ho". Her mentall issues are her problem not your, she is never going to be girlfriend material, she is just damaged. Go and look for a healthy woman.

Take advantage of that and find a better woman.

Always look at woman actions not words.

Again, plans for the future. What is she doing rigth now? basically avoiding you.. and friendzone you.. that's what you need to see.

Just some kisses?? she should be all over you everytime in a date. That's what a woman do when she is attracted to his man... no matter how much you hang with her, if she is not into you there is not going to be passion at all.

This is why you don't date people that is damaged. Is more pain than joy. She is not ready to date, she have some serious issues to fix. Look for a woman that is healthy and ready to date and give you what you want. She can't give you what you want, no matter how much you try. It took you 4 years to figure that out (and I really think you are going to still try to make it work with her).

You are the only one to blame. You are trying to make her your girlfriend when she is not able or willing to do that. You think she is into you as much you are into her but her actions tell me she is not, and your actions tell me you are crazy about her. Also... she have mental issues, that disqualifies her for the relationship you are looking for.

She have mental issues, you know that from the first moment you knew her.. but you waisted 4 years trying to make it work with her.
That's how I know you are blind or you don't what to see reality the way it is.

 

The fact she have a hugh red flag disqualify her for girlfriend material, you could accept that 4 years ago and don't waste all that time, energy and money with a woman like this. You can of course be his friend or friend with benefit if you want but reserve that special girlfriend spot to a woman that can fill that space. This woman is not that woman.

This happens with people that have red flags.. you can avoid reality but you cannot avoid the concecuences of ingoring reality. YOu though you coud change her, you could fix her, you could make it work with with a person that is unable to give you what you want.
Learn from this experience, next time you see this red flag let her go and don't waste more time.

 

That sounds quite... Shevenist? Everyone deserves love. If you are ready, you can even love someone without love in return. Just for love.

OP already said he didn't want to change her and she was at some point able to give what he wanted. Don't refer to people with shizophrenia as "broken", please, that quite fascist.

 

Why? everything in live have to be earned. You don't deserve love, you earn to be loved. You earn to be respected, you earn to be trusted.

You go to a relationship to give, but always check if the other person is giving you back, if not you are going to get taken advantage off very often with this mentality.

Love is between to people, if you are the only one loving... then is not love..

They are broken, they have a mental disorder that they need to work on. Is good, is bad? it always depends on the context... but if you are a healthy guy with all your shit figured out then is not going to work if you choose as your partner a woman with shizophrenia. Go and look a person that is living a life similar to your where you can met their need and they can meet yours.

When she is ok she can provide to him, when she is not she is a missing person. You can´t have a healthy relationship with a person like this. He is figuring that out 4 years after knowing her, he have the chance of learning from the experience and go and look for a person that is willing and able to meet his needs.

 

When you work on yourself you reach to a point when you start loving yourself, you are proud of who you became and you are really happy about it.
That's a great moment to go and share it to the world. Also is a great moment were you don't put up with people crap. You can go and leave behind crappy people to be with happy people that already do their work.

That's the place I'm rigth now. Did my work and I'm ssharing my completeness to the world. Also I'm helping people to see reality the way it is, and encourage people to work on themselves to be happy and have a fullfilling life. Also is easier to see the reality when you are in a better place and is easier to surround yourself with people that is going to bring more happiness and good times. Mix yourselve with unhappy people and with a lot of issues.. and they are going to bring a lot of drama and bad moments to it.

I choosee happy woman that are 100% always in a good mood and are easy to be with, that are consistent and always what to hang with me.. you choosed a woman with health issues that is no way shape of form can give you what you want in a relationship.. That's whhy I suggest you to start looking at reality the way it is and question yourself why are you so focused with this woman and not going out with more happy and healthy woman. Find the reason and maybe you can start working on solving it... and maybe in the future you can be happy and choose happy people to be with.