Been Fapping A LOT

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Ravefist, Dec 4, 2019.

  1. Ravefist

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    So after I relapsed on Nov 3, I hae been fapping each week consistently, sometimes binging 2,3,4 times in a session.

    Guys, after that Nov 3rd relapse, I just felt hopeless, like why would I even try if I failed then. My real reason, though, is that I don't think I can heal to 100%, and if I can't heal/recover all of myself, then why even try?
     
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  2. BigOne79

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    Okay, just my opinion on your statement and I know exactly how your going to heal and be 100%. Stop laying around your house, or dormitory just waiting until you start thinking about flapping and then cannot control yourself anymore. Stay off your phone and computer and do something else with your time. You have to get away from our bedroom or home where you fap. I don't know how old you are but if you are high school or college age you should be hitting the GYM working out and getting into the best shape of your life. Second, do you have a job..?? Figure out WHAT YOU WANT TO DO IN LIFE... Fapping isn't what you want to do with the rest of your life is it.?? Find out what it is you like and see if you can start working in that area or field IMMEDIATELY. If you are still in high school get a job a restaurant bussing or waiting tables and make some money. Not only are you out of the house buy you meet other people your age, and GIRLS, and you start hanging out together. I worked in restaurants with people and had some of the best times after working evenings and weekends hanging out. My father instilled working and I learned the value of making a buck then I had the resources to do what I wanted and buy what I wanted.

    Stop thinking you are horny and need to fap because you DON'T NEED TO because you don't have a girl with you when you do it. You have to understand fapping is a habit like smoking, and becomes addictive. I guarantee you take a good long look one time you are about to fap and you will see that it is your addiction and your mind that thinks you need it and not because you need sex. Start reading a book, play an instrument or go run/walk around an area. Go for a drink with a friend somewhere if you are 21 or over. Don't have to get DRUNK though. Do
     
  3. Ravefist

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    Thanks for the inspiration. I actually know for a fact that I DONT NEED to fap, but my concern is that I'm already too far gone. My hair has really taken a hit, especially, and I'm wondering if I can simply heal by being abstinent. Its been two days since my last fap and I'm feeling a bit better
     
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  4. Aboodhi

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    You have such a weak mindset. First set your goal. You have to quit this, and know the reason why. Because it's unhealthy! Have a strong willpower. Say this to yourself often "I AM NOT GOING TO GIVE MY SELF TO THIS ADDICTION ANYMORE, I'M NOT LETTING THIS URGE WIN"
     
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  5. Arnuld

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    This addiction can take over your life if you are not careful. Dude I would do anything to go back and be your age (It says 22 on your profile) and get completely clean and sober from pornography. I didn’t wake up to the fact that I had a real problem until I was well into my thirties and I’m still working it everyday. You need to treat this like a virus that instead of making you sick makes you feel shame, robs you of your virility, self confidence, and energy. Do whatever it takes to quit now. Go to therapy, SAA, whatever works for you, but fucking quit. Because brother trust me when I tell you this shit does not get better over time.
     
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  6. Ravefist

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    Hey there. Do you think I can even recover at all? Like can I even work to be back like how I was before?
     
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  7. Arnuld

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    Absolutely. But you are going to have to make a definitive choice to do it and maximize whatever resources you have available to help you along in the process.
     
  8. Reading through this thread for myself since I’ve been struggling.

    I think this is great input here. Been making excuses due to disappointments in life and having a defeatist mindset.

    I need to get back on track!
     
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  9. Aboodhi

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    That's the spirit brother. Go get your life. All the best !!! @Cool I Can Use Spaces
     
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  10. BigOne79

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    What's your other option then is what you have to get through to youself...?? Be a slave to your hand and your computer, tablet, or phone. You will heal, I don't know your age, but if your relatively in your 20's you have it good on your side. You should be investing time now to get into GOOD physical shape, get your career off the ground and make money, work jobs that interest you if you haven't gotten a degree. You need to meet people and experience different things, go different places. You just need to get out of the place you are spending all this wasted time in. You have to make the sacrifice, I cried a lot the first year which I hit Nov. 1st. I have quite a bit of good recovery and I know there is still a lot left. I have lost hair myself as well. Although I have a bald father and grandfather but I can recall when I started college is when I saw clumps of hair coming out of my head and I do remember the fapping stepping up at that point in my life with a lot of stress from my parents with school and wanting my own space. It got out of hand and I thought it was natural. Not sure how I kept most of my hair throughout my earlier 30's, but now at 40 don't care so much.
     
  11. Ravefist

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    You seem to have a very similar experience to me. I really need to stop fapping. Its done no good to me. I exercise a lot, and eat realatively good food, but What I don't have is much confidence in myself that I can heal after all of my mistakes. I guess I have to try. I have no other option.
     
  12. Ravefist

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    Sir, what was your frequency when you were younger in terms of relapsing?
     
  13. Solidude

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    Because without porn and mastrubation is your normal condition. Faping is abnormal — you’re habitually trying to do.
     

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