Bein alone as an adult - Overcoming anxiety - ABCD model(REBT)

A - Activating event – alone in a room. At first sight, I was alone in the room, but I wasn’t aware that people surrounded me outside of the room and in the world.

B- Belief – I am alone; I can’t stand it. There is no one to help me; I will die.

C - Consequences – Feeling isolated and lonely, feeling anxiety in my chest. And I have a more serious appearance after I go among people. Everyone asks me why I am so serious. I was serious because I would feel difficult most of the day, and when I went somewhere, I would bring those feelings with me, which is completely ridiculous.

D – Disputing – Why do I sometimes feel lonely in the room and sometimes don’t? It is the same room. I would feel fine if I hung out with friends and came alone in my room. But when the whole day I am alone in a room, I don’t feel fine because of this death-facing situation, which is completely irrational. I can always go outside to a friend’s house or a cafe to be surrounded by people.