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Being a virgin and watching porn

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by HelloSalute, May 24, 2017.

  1. HelloSalute

    HelloSalute Fapstronaut

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    I've seen a lot of posts where there's a person in their late teens or early 20s talking about being a virgin and watching porn. Your virginity is the last thing you should worry about. In all honesty you should wait until you are married to pop your man cherry. God will bless you that way. You may think right now that you are unable to get a girl and that you never will, then use porn as a coping mechanism or substitute. Don't do that. Don' think that.

    When you hit late 20s you will realize that the groups, clicks, or whatever else people in school had, will not exist. You will have a on of opportunities in life to get a girl. No joke. Work on yourself and make yourself better right now though. It's important, don't worry about a relationship. So if you flip burgers, be the best at it and progress up the chain. Get a hobby and excel at it. Join a group or volunteer anywhere. Girls love that crap. They want success, but you need to work at that. Many don't care about money. Do you have goals and go out and do stuff to accomplish them? Then you're successful. Do you volunteer, then you are a success. That's what will attract a girl. Then your personality... Do you care about the girl you want? Because if you don't like their personality, or really care about them as a person it is going to show. If you don't actually care about them beyond the whole, well everyone else is having sex or a least has a relationship thing, no one is going to want to be with you.

    Don't use porn as a crutch for not having a girl, or because you don't have a girl as an excuse to use. You'll get one. Stop looking at porn right now, because most importantly you are going to go to Hell if you don't (this includes me too), then secondly porn messes with your brain which will in turn, in multiple ways, make you less attractive to people, making the chances of getting a girlfriend harder. Stop thinking of sex.
     
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  2. PlasticBoy

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    Sorry to dissapoint you, but god doesnt exist :(
     
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  3. Headspace

    Headspace Fapstronaut

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    Lovely post @HelloSalute!

    Besides there being plenty of reasons god does exist, this wasn't even a central point of the OP's message. He only mentioned god in one sentence, and if you took that sentence away, it wouldn't change much ;)
     
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  4. 3nigma

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    I like everything you have to say except the god crap and the going to hell part is just ridiculous. You think you're going to be burned for all eternity in the center of the earth for looking at a little porn? C'moooooon, man. And I'm not even sure someone who masturbates and watches porn is a virgin. After all, you're fucking yourself.
     
  5. Headspace

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    And it's gay because you're touching a dick! No seriously, the big difference between being with yourself and being with another human being is that you share intimacy, making yourself vulnerable. You could say that's why it's called intercourse and not intracourse :p
     
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  6. IceRoots

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    I love you for taking the time to write something like that!!

    When I was 13 and older I felt that way. There were the cool kid who had gf and I was really jealous because I thought there would never be the option for me to get a girl.
    Now I am 18 and have my first gf. I have better grades, than these cool kids, I am healthier, have a better social surrounding and so on.
    You are so true and I hope, my and your words will help people to survive the self finding process. (Mine is still going on btw).
    Greetings
     
  7. Star Lord

    Star Lord Fapstronaut

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    Great post.
    Brings things back to reality and emphasises what's important.
     
  8. Veritech

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    Other than the "going to hell" part I completely agree with this advice.

    I am a firm believer that for every man there is a soul-mate out there. Just be patient and look for her and you will find her eventually.

    If you think that after you find a girlfriend and become sexually active that you will be able to shove the porn aside, then you are mistaken. Porn is habit forming and the desire for porn will continue even if you are having great sex.

    Deal with the habit even while you are a virgin. You will be accountable to a partner one day and she will not be pleased if she inadvertently catches you watching porn with your penis in your hand.
     
  9. HelloSalute

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    The part where i mentioned, "stop looking at porn right now, because most importantly you are going to go to Hell if you don't (this includes me too)"...

    That's not a joke... I had two dreams, in both they were pretty much the same. God said basically He would throw me in Hell if I didn't stop looking at porn. If I added in in there in a poor way I apologize, but its not sarcastic or funny. It's not meant to be said in a light way. I call myself a Christian, if I'll go to Hell for this, so will you. I'm stopping. The Goal, no use of porn.
     

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