Benefits of being single?

I guess the grass is always greener on the other side. There are many partnered and married guys on here who are experiencing relationship hell themselves - perhaps being single looks desirable at times.

In the end, if we just accept the state of life we find ourselves in at the moment (such as, being single), our happiness in being single will draw a partner if it's meant to go there for us - and if not, we're still happy. The opposite scenario is to not be happy with being single and hook up with a partner out of codependency because we are not happy with ourselves (we need another to make us happy - which cannot work), and the whole relationship sours into partnership hell until we break up - if we're so lucky to find our autonomy again. A relationship only works if I'm happy with me first and love myself; then, I am able to love another selflessly.

Also, while being single does imply one does not have a partner, it doesn't mean that one is not involved in friendships and other sustaining relationships. Try to interact with people of both sexes in platonic ways as a single vocation calls one to do. Be at peace and at oneness with yourself; then, the world will open up for you.

Plus, man, you're still so young! Be patient.

 

I'll try to keep it brief. I wouldn't want to bore you with a top 100.

1) Career flexibility to live anywhere you want whenever you want to do so.
2) Ability to pursue a path in life you choose without conflicting need to care of a large family with children and supporting one/both.
3) When you come home each day, no obligations and very low stress.
4) Smooth and level emotions without the emotional roller coaster of being in a relationship.
5) Simple life and very easy to live with fewer material possessions (I don't have couch/TV, own few kitchen appliances and only a few plates).
6) Freedom to date anyone you want. No restrictions on the women you spend your time with.
7) Time is not constantly split between family obligations and work.
8) You get the entire bed unless you happen to choose to sleep with another woman.
9) You can pursue whatever you most want every night and feel comfort knowing you have the time to do so.
10) Peace, quiet and plenty of time completely by yourself.
11) Independence and self-sufficiency.
12) An incredibly positive view towards women without negative scars from current/recent relationships (which could be harmful).
13) You want to buy yourself that new sports car or in my case that new hiking backpack and ultralight tent, go right ahead!
14) No risk of divorce and losing half of your house + possible financial ruin.
15) Restraints on what you can and cannot do are self-imposed. You are responsible for your successes and failures. No crutches to lean on.

 

Ya being single is the best. I agree with everything above. Peace of mind man.

 

Yeah being single is best unless you get fucking negative thoughts every day that you suck because you are single x) So yeah if ya meditate and shit and not really accept them as absolute truth you can be pretty happy. Otherwise, from a practical point of view I think it's obvious that being single is better.

 

The benefits of being single.

More time, more energy, less stress, more money.

I can only see marriage and children as a personal sacrifice to the future.

 

Money Can't but happiness as the saying goes.

 

I was with my ex girlfriend for six years from my late teens to early twenties. It was only after we broke up 2.5 years ago I started to discover who I actually was, and I'm still learning this now. Being single can be lonely at times but having time to yourself to develop into the person you want to be is great and will ultimately make you much more secure and fulfilled. I wouldn't say no to a relationship if I met the right person but the important thing is that I'm happy either way. If I don't meet anyone for another 10 years, fine, I'll carry on enjoying being single. That's the mindset you need to have.

 

That is the exact mindset you need to have I mean look at me I haven't had a date in 28 years and I am still wondering why I don't have a girlfriend yet? Though may be a sad and lonely walk you have to become the man a woman wants by her side.