Bi guy, mid forties, new here

Welcome! I'm glad you're here.

I am so sorry to hear about the crimes that were committed against you. And I hope you keep coming back.

 

Hi
Welcome to Nofap. Here is some information that could help.
A success story, talking about how he overcome PMO.
A YouTube vid, explaining how addiction work.
An article, reading the benefits of nofap.
A human version of rat park

All best

 

Hi, I'm new here too, in fact this is the first reply I've made, but so much of what you have written really hits a cord with me. I realise now how hard it is to make changes on your own and like you, I'm hoping to get support from this community.

Good luck and stay strong.

 

Hi @Zack416 , wekcome to NoFap
We share a few things in common: I was also sexually abused, in my case by three okder kids at the school restroom when I was 10. And this lead me to a life full if sexual orientations problems, P gay addiction, random hook ups with guys in promiscuous places and hiring hundred of gay P stars as escorts
I am married to a woman but have been totally unfaithful until 3 years ago when I stated my reboot
You can check the forum for bisexuals, there are some other guys like us to share your stories
It is a big step if you can understand what is triggering your urges, because this will allow you to be awake and kill those urges as soon as they appear.

I recommend you to create your own "Emergency Toolbox" with readings that can be handy to read when you start feeling urges to screw up.
I can share this post with you with my own Emergency Toolbox, it helped me a lot during the first few months, i had them in my cell and read them every time I started falling down:

https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...y-first-320-days-of-reboot.62938/#post-473978

I wrote some tips in this post that perhaps will help you too:

http://NoFap.com/forum/index.php?threads/tips-that-helped-me-to-start-my-reboot.46617/#post-330318
You can watch some interesting videos which are also very helpful in this post:
http://nofap.com/forum/index.php?th...t-help-me-a-lot-during-my-reboot.39774/page-2

I also suggest you to read "Breaking the Cycle" by George Collins, it is a must-read if you are serious about getting rid of this addiction.
To get more focus and feel happier with life I recommend you to start doing meditation.. I have been using an App called Headspace for the last two months which is great if you have never meditated before. The first 10 sessions are free if you want to give a try. I used to feel a bit depressed or feeling without energy to start new projects in my life, and meditation has helped me a lot with this.

Last but not least, I would strongly recommend you to take the NoFap Academy course if you can afford it. The course is great but the best value are the weekly video calls with @alexander (the creator of NoFap and NoFap Academy) and Mark Queppet, where you can chat with them in real life and listen to other guys's stories and problems too.

I hope that all this helps you to fight this shitty addiction.
Let's keep on fighting

Fercho

 

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I was sexually abused by a teacher as well at 16. I’m 69 now. He groomed me for the previous two years. I was a virgin. I continued sex (only BJs) with him over the next six years. Then I think I was too old for him and I was left really confused. When I was with him he treated me like the sun rose in me. That’s the worst part. He made me feel special, handsome and desirable, but was left thinking my value was in my D and body. I also was sexually active with women during that time (promiscuous and drugs).Now I’m 69 married to a great lady for 45 years in August. I accept I’m bi but resent that I wasn’t able to determine that by my own choice naturally. It would have been nice to genuinely find out who i was. I had so much guilt over this for years. It’s so much different for young folks these days. I hate that young people even now are abused and used by letchers.

 

Hey, I am new here too and I want to wish you good luck on your journey. I am sure you will find the right knowledge and ppl to talk about!

 

Welcome!

 

Hell. You might not even be gay in your true self. Especially if the abuse was your intro to sex and/or went in for a period of time. I was abused by a teacher as well over a 6 year period. My identity was wrapped in my dick size, body and looks. It made me believe that’s who I was. I’m more than my dick I’m finding out. I’m 69 now and still discovering my true self. So my looks and body are not an issue any longer but the dick still calls me gay from time to time.