Blowjob on day 30. I feel horrible.

Sounds like your brain fog induced suffering is severe. You shouldn't have sex til your brain fog is completely lifted off you.

 

Ok I understand now. I still think it's a little odd especially if you're not masturbating. So basically any orgasm drains you, that needs to be understood more because that's obviously not normal but it could be because you're still not completely rebooted.

 

But in your first message you said "I can't think straight, my motivation is back to rock-bottom, my confidence is low, and my mood is terrible. I feel overwhelmingly depressed" Physical would be pain you feel in your body, nothing you described there. The "overwhelmingly depressed" statement would suggest something is going on in your head

 

Look up post coital depression. It's where the prolactin that ejaculation brings upon us stops the dopamine from working. Getting a prolactin inhibitor could help I guess?

 

How much did you talk together about it?
I think a BJ as a part of a solid growing relationship is a different thing. The discussion/dialogue before and after the fact are integral parts of the fact. Without the intimate close relationship, a BJ is more closely related to fapping, just without needing an old sock.
And what did you do to help her release?

 

Man, i felt the same! i received a BJ on day 12 and on day 30, and i was feeling like a shit for a week! I had other sexual experiences on days 80 and 90 and i was way better after those

 

Oh God I am happy cause I am not the only one who through this.

So yesterday I was in desire of sex. I asked my friend to do a blowjob and she said yes.

So we did it under the stars. It turns into something that I regret because I had no feeling towards her from the start (she's just my friend). It was just temporary sex desire for me, but I guess she's get into it.

It's not memorable and I don't want to remember it at all. Bad thing is, I broke my NoFap streak. It's been 33 days man. I feel so bad when I should reset my timer back to zero.

I used to had sex with my ex girlfriend back then and it felt so good because she was the girl I put my heart to. But friends? No....

I don't know what would happen next. I wish we never meet again.

 

First of all, congratulations - as someone who has never had a woman successfully 'blow' me (they've sucked, licked, whatever, but never enough to get me off), I'm happy for any man that has that happen for them. I'm in the camp of people who would make the argument that you need to give yourself time to reboot/recover, and as healthy as sexual interactions with real people are, they can be an impediment to that.

However, I am not one of these people in thinks a 'deep emotional connection' is required for sex. I admit to needing to connect with a woman on some level (Hey, I apparently have standards), but this whole 'love, marriage' schtick is not something I can buy. Some of the best sex I've had was with an FWB where we both knew it was purely physical and were actively committed to not pursuing something more.

And seriously, to those people who have women in your lives who are happy to suck your dick - cry me a fucking river. A majority of the women I've been involved with intimately have been reticent or unwilling to do that, even when they make claims about being 'sexual' or 'wild' or 'experimental' or 'fun', or are sucking off other guys (sometimes while involved with me). So while you bitch and whine about feeling like crap after being blown, I'll just make reference to your First World Problems. You have no idea what I'd give for a wiling woman to actually want to touch me.

 

I think there's a condition where you get depressed after orgasm. I think another commentator mentioned it. Not sure what the solution is for that condition but you probably need more time away from porn/sex in general. I also agree about casual sex not being too satisfying. Maybe it was a physical reaction to porn overuse and maybe a more mental reaction to casual sex though by your comments it seems to be the former.

 

I think the thoughts and feelings you are experiencing are more likely the effects of NoFap and your brain 'punishing' you for NoFap.
I'm sure things will improve... keep on the journey and try real sex again in a few weeks

 

That's because the addiction is PMO, Porn, masturbation, orgasm, you're not just addicted to 1. We're basically just sex addicts when it comes down to it, to our brains an orgasm is just an orgasm, doesn't matter how it happened its just a dopamine release.

You need to cut off everything for a while so your dopamine receptors can heal, then you can get intimate again. But regardless of that orgasms are just draining as fuck anyway.

 

This, again, for emphasis.

Look, I was able to post here without being a bitter twiste... Nope, there it is!

 

90 day reboot ? How do you know your rebooted . I am day 38 and feel low with no morning wood the last few days . Is this the flatline ? I wasn't a heavy porn user .

 

Yes, it's a flatline. There are innumerable posts on here from people who've gone through it and worry that their equipment isn't working. It's alright - it will work again.

As for knowing when you've rebooted - when you're in an intimate situation with someone, and your penis is 1) ready to work, and 2) shoots a load, I'd argue those are good signs of a reboot? Not having an intimate situation with someone? Go out and get one.

 

I have a girlfriend , but I have noticed after 39 days of no pmo that I am not undressing hot girls with my eyes . That's good

 

Yeah, it's a good thing.