Bone in public

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Commit, Sep 29, 2018.

  1. Commit

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    I always used to masturbate to voyuerism and exhibitionism porn so the idea of someone seeing me was a turn on . I used to go to the nude beach just to jack off or quiet times at the gym locker room.

    Anyways when I stop masturbating and porn i find that it's a lot easier to trigger a boner. I'm trying my best to avoid masturbstion but I get hard so frequently when I wake up or take a shower or other times.

    I have a problem at the gym , after I'm done my workout I want to shower and change out of my sweaty clothes. But the problem is I get a massive erection and I'm not trying to boast or anything but I'm 9 inches long and I look so stupid. Guys that are straight think I'm gay , gay men think I am looking for fun but really I just cant control it .

    When will that stop
     
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  2. Randy

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    I would just act like nothing was happening. Dudes in the locker room are probably jealous. After a vigorous workout, my penis is usually at its smallest.
     
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  3. +TenPercent

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    I second what @Randy says. Most guys at the gym are self conscious about something and probably more focused on what they are trying to hide. Best to act like it's no big deal. Take your clothes off, wrap a towel around your waist and go hit the shower.

    And yes, definitely jealous. With 9 inches, you pretty much own that gym. You certainly have nothing to be ashamed of there! Stop worrying about what they think because I'm sure that most of them are thinking about what they (don't) have, not about your sexual preference.

    Also, I'm sure that thinking about it is what is really getting you into trouble. So again, don't think about it, just carry on.

    When you stop thinking about it is when it will stop happening.
     
  4. Wear your towel into the shower and turn in the water cold before you take it off.
    This hyper sensitive phase will pass.
     
  5. sayonaraPMO

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    Yeah it's a tricky one. As a bi man who's watched a lot of gay porn that takes place in locker rooms, locker rooms are tricky for me. I'll try my best but I'll inevitably get turned on while I'm showering after a swimming session.

    These showering scenarios shouldn't be sexual and I know that, so I put myself in the scenario and I ignore my raging boner as much as I can, and make sure I hide it from all parties. Quitting PMO is all about breaking free of these fetishes that we've developed because of porn and so we've got to expose ourselves to the normal scenario of being naked around people non-sexually at some point.

    It's not happened yet but I hope with time that eventually I'll get to a point where being nude can not be linked to sex.
     
  6. Commit

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    Thanks I appreciate your advice , I'll try my best just to not think about it and wrap a towel around myself asap, problem is the showers I use dont have alot of privacy.

    Not trying tying to make anyone jealous just trying to not think about all that stuff
     
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  7. My advice would be to not jack off in public anymore. I might have misread you but i think you mentioned that. That can lead to being listed as a sex offender. as far as the locker room thing goes yeah just wear a towel and put it up in the waist band of your shorts or pants.
     
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  8. Tannhauser

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    Have you tried cold showers?
     
  9. Debt Collector Calls

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    I cant seem to stop masturbating also. I have an addiction to being used by guys financially. I get hard every time
    my phone rings and guys are calling for a payment. I usually send small amounts but it adds up because so many
    guys keep calling. Ive tried changing my phone number but I always start giving out the new one again.
     
  10. st831

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    mwm here, but if I saw a 9inch in the locker room, I would be impressed. :) don't take yourself so seriously. You can't always control what your body does.
     
  11. Dude I also just pop random boners in public. I wear basketball shorts so it's hard to hide them. You just gotta go about your business until it fades. Be proud of it man! It's a sign of progress in your struggle!
     
  12. Commit

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    wow that sounds rough! did those guys do anything for you for them to use your financially ?
     
  13. Commit

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    well glad to hear a straight married man wouldn't be offended but rather impressed, makes me feel slightly better. i'm just more worried about offending guys who think I am there looking for fun. One older guy followed me to the shower because he thought I was looking so he smiled at me and looked at my boner and I kinda just laughed and said whoops look like I got a little too excited, but at the same time I was so horny I almost wanted him to do something, and that's the worst part because im not even gay but so horny i'd take it from anyone
     
  14. Commit

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    Yes I agree :(… I am way to risky with that stuff but the sexual thoughts just take control I can't even help it, it's just sooo addicting and satisfying
     
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  15. This will pass. In the moment try to think of something else, anything else.
    Your brain is trying to keep you on the merry-go-round.
     
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  16. Pinetree

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    It is possible to control a boner. There are more ways, one of them is based on the so called Kegel exercises, I got them from Mantak Chia books. It doesn't go down instantly, but probably within 1-3 minutes.
     
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  17. Debt Collector Calls

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    No. I just make payments when they call and demand it. It started with one or two people and now several call me
    on a random basis to pay a bill.
     
  18. Commit

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    and that's a turnon for you?
     
  19. Debt Collector Calls

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    Yes, and I would like to cut down but not stop but it seems its not going to happen.
    In fact I wish I could post my # here.
     
  20. Tannhauser

    Tannhauser Fapstronaut

    Man, any addiction, no matter how strange, you have to quit it all the way. Cutting it down won't help!
     

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