Brain fog

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Kinfolk88, Jul 27, 2022.

  1. Kinfolk88

    Kinfolk88 Fapstronaut

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    I can’t focus On something my memory and concentration is poor i even fuck up small tasks even something that I already know I fuck up its like my head is empty and im uninterested to learn anything Is this linked I want to recover but every time I try I fail at days 2 or 8 I think of how long reboot is going to take I get very discouraged I’m alone constantly I have no desire to seek interaction and i numb the pain or distract myself with this disgusting behaviour porn has me in a grip I have goals and desire but until I quit this habit I’ll never achieve them seems like it
     
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  2. desmond318

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    I am sorry this happened to you, but know that there is hope as long as you are alive.

    First of all, all of the problems that you mentioned are probably linked to sex addiction, so I am pretty sure going NoFap for a time would cure the most, if not all of them.

    Then, regarding your NoFap journey, the best piece of quick advice that I can give you is that, you should not quit PMO only by willpower. Every time you relapse, find out the reason, e.g. boredom, negative emotions, fantasizing sexual stuff...etc. Try not to repeat the same mistake, and you should see yourself relapse less and less often.

    About your pain, you should find new ways to cope, so that you don't go back to porn every time you are down. Try to experiment with new stuff. I can give you a few examples: reading, taking a walk outdoors, meditation and listening to classical music. They may sound boring, but please try them. You never know whether you like any of them without trying.

    In addition, you may also want to start a journal here (if you don't already have one). It is a powerful tool to share your thoughts, as well as to receive useful advice from others.

    NoFap is the one of the best things that one can do in his life, so don't give it up. I wish you good luck!
     
  3. hsb0617

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  4. mdz

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    As a recovering addict that relapse seldom, I can say: Each time I relapse, I get brain fog a couple of days after and it lasts usually 2-3 weeks. I think it has to do with something get messed up in dopamine reward system or the "pathways".
    I didnt know what it was but now realized that it is "brain fog".

    Symptoms:

    1. Hard to concentrate.
    2. Not finding right words when talking.
    3. A strange kind of stuttering.
    4. Forgetfulness
    5. "Autopilot" habits distrupted. (things that should go automatically, feels new and requires thinking)
    6. Depression like symptoms where I feel less creativity and social bonding.

    When you havent use porn for half a year, your dopamine receptors are more sensitive. So when you relapse, it hits you harder, each time.

    /Mdz
     
  5. Anonymous86

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    Does your head feel a 'heaviness' sensation/feeling as well?
     
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  6. YoungMedic

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    Hey man, I was reading your post, and I have some advice that you may find to be helpful. First of all, I'm glad you are speaking out and asking for help. Acknowledging that you want to stop this bad habit is the first step. Secondly I think it would really benefit you to change the way that you speak to yourself in your head. It sounds like you are really beating yourself up over this. Trust me when I say this, you will not make progress if you constantly obsess over your reboot. Stop focusing on the days, and change your self talk. The reality of this life is that you will probably relapse in the future. Is it realistic to say that you will never beat your dick in the next 50 years of your life? No it's not. You have to change your mindset from being the guy who is a porn addict who cannot control when you beat your dick, and who is a loser who cannot achieve any of his goals because he is too pathetic to stop watching porn. Instead the best thing you could do for yourself is build up a positive mindset. Be the guy who tells himself that he just doesn't watch porn.

    This website can be a bit toxic for some guys, because there is the side that tells you that you are an addict, and are going to be doomed to a life where you cannot achieve anything, and that if you watch porn even once after you start your journey to removing porn from your life, you will basically fail at life. Add the success stories that you read where guys pretty much boast about how many days they made it to, and how many girls it got them, how productive they are, etc.

    This makes it hard for you to stop, because you end up placing too much emphasis on counting the days, and as a result you obsess about not watching porn. Ironically this makes you watch it more, and as a bi-product you feel worse about yourself. What most guys do not tell you about is how long it takes, and how many relapses you have at the beginning before something really sticks. You want to get to the point where you just do not masturbate. I know that it sounds hard, but you have to almost force yourself to believe that you just don't do it. Do I still slip up? Yeah sometimes. But when I do I pick myself up, learn from the mistake, and keep moving in a positive direction. It breaks the cycle of constant relapse.

    Another important part is to start building up positive habits. You have to put your horny energy towards something productive. For me I hit the gym, because I feel better about myself after, and I end up slowly becoming more attractive across time. The end goal for a lot of guys is to put that horny energy towards actual girls. In the meantime use that energy as motivation. The brain fog will alleviate as you put in the hard work to become a better man, and slowly ease off masturbation and porn use. It won't happen overnight, but it's worth it.

    Sorry for the essay, but I think more guys on this platform could use some actual sustainable advice. Good luck, and if you have any questions, or need any advice feel free to message me, or reply to this thread.
     
  7. Kinfolk88

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    Hey bro read your message thanks for the advice, I workout 5 times a day that is part of my routine however it does help me in certain areas of my life and I do feel a lot better after working out the thing is after that couple of hours I feel like shit and work related stress life and shit kicks in also Bordem because I’m alone in my head constantly I feel like it is the loneliness that feeds into my addiction each time I’m either frustrated or bored or have to do something difficult the idea of watching pornography appears sometimes I can ignore it but since I’ve built a connection with this habit it so strong that my mind tells me this the only way I’ll calm down from anxiety and etc
     
  8. MrPriest

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    Realize that's a lie, and that obviously there are other ways, boredom, frustation, and apathy are the worst mental states to resist temptation.

    Everytime you feel like you are on a weak point, and that indulging on that is the only solution, remind yourself of two things, first, you know how that ends, and don't like it, and second...

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    Raise above, ascend, find your inner strength, is better to suffer from your own decisions, and become better after you overcome it, than to suffer from something that controls you, and become weaker and resentful towards yourself, creating a feedback loop of frustration that will only make things worse.

    You got this, stay strong warrior.

    May god bless you.
     
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  9. ARCEUS

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    After like 6 months of struggle, in 3 days I will achieve my longest streak, let's be truthful, I am really struggling hard but my willpower and reasoning, that is of, why to support those pigs or stray dogs who are repeatedly destroying our whole life and using our weakpoint so that they could earn more, they are more than just emotionless pigs, I really want to kill all of them, they are destroying us! Okay calm down, back to the Topic, Yes this is my 1st reasoning, I also try to tell myself, I only have 1 life, if I destroy it, than there is no alternative to live with everything ruined that includes abusing families, being soo aggressive every moment you talk, constant whispers of doing suicides and suffering from constant depression, feeling uneasy, not being qualified to fulfill the NEEDS, yeah this my 2nd reasoning.

    Today I was suffering from a tremendously humongoes amount of urge about 1 hour before I am writing this, it lasted like 40 minutes, I was almost fallen but yeah, controlled myself, I even cried and preyed to god to end this suffering, and now, finally no urge left while writing this, PLUS I HAVE GOT AN UPGRADE IN CONTROLLING MY SELF. My aim is to conquer my upcoming competitive exam which is in 4 months, so there is no alternative, I HAVE to and I WILL CONQUER THIS SUFFERING!!
     
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  10. Kinfolk88

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    Thank you for all the words of encouragement and for sharing your experiences with me Reading more and more of your stories inspires me bits and bits this addiction is strong But we have a community who is set to eliminate this habit these big corporations and companies or whatever you want to call them don’t give a shit about us only here for the billions they generate annually. With the time and dedication I will overcome this beast I am going to overcome it and even if a relapse occurs I will not dwell on it and think of how I failed instead I’ll shift my mindset to a lesson not to go back to how I was. Pornography ruined my teenage years I won’t let it ruin the rest of my life thank you fellas
     
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  11. mdz

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    No, I didnt had these symptoms.
     
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  12. Anonymous86

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    I see. Maybe it's different for different people, then.
     
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  13. mdz

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    I felt however occasionally that I had like a "blanket" over my head. Often in combination having hard to concentrate.
     
  14. Hsooon

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    I'm the complete opposite of you when recovering, I feel angry and a severe headache, but because of the severe addiction
     
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