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Brainwashing yourself to edge instead of orgasm

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by learning, Mar 9, 2019.

  1. Mar 9, 2019 #1
    learning

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    For several years I have been unable to reliably orgasm during PMO. I didn't consider myself to be edging, because that wasn't my goal consciously, but now I am wondering if I have accidentally brainwashed myself so that edging is my goal UNCONSCIOUSLY.

    Edging for me began innocently as an effort to compensate for my aging libido by delaying the ejaculation as long as possible. Now I can't seem to ejaculate except on rare occasions. It's not that I consciously want to edge, but I think my subconscious porn-brain insists on edging.

    The result is miserably long PMO sessions lasting 12 hours until I finally give up in frustration and defeat.
     
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  2. Mar 9, 2019 #2
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    Possible, but I think it's more likely that you're just de-sensitized from that "death grip." I use to be like this too. During my first experience with a woman, I was afraid of finishing too quickly, so I intentionally delayed it and thought the same thing you do. Years later, I could have sex for an hour straight and just stop, unable to finish. I haven't had any since starting NoFap, but I've relapsed a few times with P and M and it really doesn't take much anymore. I can't even edge for a few seconds without risking relapse.
     
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  3. Mar 9, 2019 #3
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    I've never tried the death grip, but otherwise that sounds about right.

    It's an insidious problem. I hope you continue to make progress.
     
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  4. Mar 9, 2019 #4
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    Thanks and you to you also! The problem now is the exact opposite. I'm officially a one pump chump lol.
     
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