Break up with my girlfriend, feeling depressive

Hey man, I'm sorry she broke up with you, but if she was so fickle then don't be bothered by it as it's her who has priority confusion.
Now on to you feeling like you need to get shit done, needing to make friends, needing to move out... I can ensure you that the world around you will never be the way you want it, to achieve that you'd have to be some kind of a tyrant or dictator. If you are feeling in a state of unease, then at least start by taking care of the one you can entirely control. You. Before trying to search outwards for a solution... Look inwards.

You should have complete control over your mind, instead it seems to be somewhat paving your path without your conscious decision. Your emotions, your thoughts of negativity.. As Sadhguru said, If it was up to you, would you keep this one in a state of bliss and joy, or a state of misery? .. But what seems to happen is that the mind is constantly telling its own story, driving on its own, with its compulsive reaction to outer situation constantly affecting your behaviour and your experience.

Existence as a psychological being is torture, because experientially, it is beyond the mind, but as a life, you are able to blissfully enjoy every moment of this life, if you attain a perception that does not distort reality for you, not clouded by identifications or attachments. Not saying detach from the ego and all that crap, thats falsehood, for convincing someone that they have this thing called ego inside them will make them a schizophrenic over time, separating the one that they are into two. Life is conscious, as are you to some level. You can raise it enough to change the chemistry of your experience quite entirely if you realize the space between yourself and your mind-body. Once you let loose of identifications, clarity sets in and you can finally listen to life.

I support you in moving out man, I for one want to as well I wanna spend time outside alot more, moving among diverse environments from the natural to the concrete jungles, I just wanna see more of this beautiful world. I'm in University though so it's tough.

I wish you bliss and a happy life man

 

My brother and her girlfriend had many arguments and quarrel before..
They did broke-up actually..

However, it's in the past.. They're still in-relationship until now.
I am still noticing quarrels from them but it's because they care for each other.

I believe you can still somehow fix yours.

 

Your story doesn't sound like a booh booh cry story at all. It sounds very real and a lot of people here can relate to (parts of) your story. To start on a positive note, you study, you have a company and you work out. That doesn't sound like a life that sucks! It looks like you are a very active person, and a lot of people on this forum don't have that. So good job on that!
I'm 23 too, and I am also feeling that I am running out of time, I ve never had a girlfriend and I cant see my friends that often becaue I work abroad for most of the year. It s some feeling under my skin, like some kind of panic that I will miss everything that people of our age are doing. But to be honest, a lot of people pretend they have a lot of friends (on social media) and a girlfriend, but when you meet these people in real life, I often think of how hollow, shallow and false their relationships are. Its better to have 3 true friends than 40 pretenders. Often these relationships are opportunistic. You study the same course, sit next to each other in class, study together, but after 3 years in college, you dont even bother texting them. I studied in a maritime academy with few girls, these girls always sat together and looked like best friends, but 2 years after graduation, these girls dont even see each other. Its often a purely opportunistic realitionship. Very few people have real friends, especially when they get older.

In an ordinary gym, it's very hard to make good friends. I knew tons of people there, but I cant call them friends. Its more small talk. If you want more sense of community, I suggest you join a crossfit gym, if you have that in the area where you live. In a crossfit gym, ego is crushed because everybody is dead exhausted at the end of the workout. You are all suffering and that opens more doors for real friendship.

What I try to tell myself is, that life doesnt end when you turn 30, it only starts then! There is soooooo much time left, for girlfriends, for friends, for work, for training. These thoughts tend to calm me down.

Just keep working on yourself and your company/study, your on the right course!

 

I also dont have a girlfriend or any friends right now and finding some seems really hard. my main goals and dreams are also just a girl and friends and a nice house. We need to make the vision a reality by taking action. The only thing standing in the way is ourselves we need to be resourceful and keep trying to form these connections with people even if it means stepping outside our comfort zone.