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I need advice on how to break the cycle of relapses. I started nofap about 2 years ago. Last year I could not get past a week without porn. This year I managed to get get a 2.5 month streak for the first time. I also went through very bad withdrawals during that time. I relapsed and ever since I have been having smaller and smaller streaks. I fear that I am going backwards. I need help getting past my first few days to get some momentum. I can't go into the new year the same person I am. This habit has taken a lot from me. If anyone has advice or can help it would mean a lot to me. Thanks in advance.
 
I feel the same way, too. I last usually a week, often less than that. And every time I tell myself I won't do it again, I know that I'm not serious. I know my heart doesn't gravitate towards leaving PMO forever, and I have no idea what to do. All I know is that I'm sick and tired of failing over and over. Porn blockers won't work for me because I have other devices I can access porn on. Journaling daily seems like a chore, and reading articles or watching videos on Nofap to "increase my knowledge" seems to repetitive - they keep telling me the same things that I already know.

Nothing that I do seems to work. So I'm seeking the same advice.
 
When you're clear-minded and not being tempted to PMO, think about what precautions you can put into place to prevent your future self from making the same mistakes.
For example, if you watch P on your phone when you go to bed, do not bring your phone to bed. That may be difficult to do, but it will help. Put it somewhere where it would take a considerable amount of effort to get it. Give yourself time to fight it.
Get blockers on your PC and phone. I recommend K9 Web Protection, OpenDNS, and I've heard Covenant Eyes is good but I haven't used it and I think it's a paid subscription.
Feed yourself with good things. Read "Your Brain on Porn" material, stay on the forums. When you're starting out, the daily intention thread can help out quite a bit. Recognize why you're quitting and keep that at the forefront of your mind.
As for other solutions, be creative and hard on yourself. Know where, when, and how you get P and do something radical to avoid it.
I also recommend picking up hobbies or working out. Keep yourself occupied.
Best of luck!
 
What’s up fellas. I have been trying nofap on and off the past 5 years. Longest streak was 130ish days, and I’m currently on a 62 day streak. My advice is to take cold showers the first 30 days. The first 30 days and especially the first week of trying no pmo are absolute hell. But, you gotta make it through, there’s no magic bullet that will get you around this. You just gotta do it.

Also, you need to become obsessed with trying to improve yourself.

If you’re scared to talk to girls, you need to start working on that. Nofap alone isn’t enough to make you not want to watch porn. You will eventually crave seeing the flesh of another female so much that you will relapse again. This is why you need to start talking to girls. Nofap imo is only half of beating your pmo addiction, the other half is having real life sex to replace pmo.

By doing nofap you are already confronting a problem that you have. The mind blowing thing is that pmo addiction is just a way to cover up a bunch of other problems that you have. So whenever you confront you’re pmo addiction, you are going to be exposed to the painful feelings that you were covering up. This imo is what causes a relapse. So, if you don’t want to relapse anymore, you need to confront these other smaller demons that you have.

Hope that makes sense.

If you don’t think you can confront these smaller demons alone, remember, you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you.

Keep your chin up, and keep grinding
 
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