Breaking the News - Help

It's a very, very personal issue, so, if you have to share and help with your healing, do so with only someone you trust to stand by and support you. Don't open up to someone who is judgemental, it'll make life harder.

 

And definitely don't tell your friends. Stopping PMO and rebooting will let them notice the change. Keep it on the down-low and let them see the positive effects on you. They don't deserve to know your struggle. When you're over it and regain your strength in short time, they'll have to get used to and respect the new you.

 

If they are, then you have to be absolutely sure. I didn't mean to sound judgmental about your friends; however, be absolutely sure of whom you can trust with this information. If there's a narcissist/psychopath in your circle, they will will leverage that information against you when it serves their purpose (degrading and humiliating others).

There are times when you have to go alone on some missions, so if you need support, choose wisely.

 

I will also advice you to act with caution. This stuff is very highly sensitive personal stuff.

Maybe you think sharing this stuff with friends and family is something that you HAVE to do, sooner or later - I'm telling you that it is not. You don't have to share it with anyone. Use the forums here, because we are all in the same boat, and we're anonymous.

I cannot really imagine that your parents will be able to help you with this one. They have probably not gone through porn addiction themselves.

When you share a problem, the receiver will have to acknowledge the circumstances of the problem - if they cannot clearly perceive these circumstances, then they will not accept your problem, and you will not recieve the help you are expecting.
This have happened to me. I have lost contact to some people because of the awkward feelings that came from not being able to communicate (not porn related though..)
I imagine that breaking the news about a porn addiction could be much, much harder to accept for some people because of the taboos and stigmatas sorrounding the subject.

Also, think of your purpose for sharing this - sometimes we share our problems because we want them quickly "off our hands" (for example people share their negativity about their boss, or someone who were rude to them in the street). Are you looking for a quick fix by sharing this stuff? Maybe you think it will be easier to bear, if other people know it? - This is a subtle trap!

 

I haven't told my parents the only person who knows is a close friend and my brother these are the two least judgmental people I know and my father saw how over the months I have become more sociable

 

I would not tell people, the fight is yours no matter how many people know and there is always the possibility of someone telling someone else and things start to get awkward. Keep on fighting then if after 100 days if you want to tell someone that is okay but now your mind is not in the right place to make such a loaded decison, loaded in a sense that it might be too much for the people you will tell.

 

No, only tell to few people:

Your girlfriend
Closest male friends (they will get you, they love sex and women) - I told my best bro about this and he supports me. He’s addicted too!
People here
Therapist or/And support group

That’s it. Parents don’t need to know but that’s my opinion

Stay strong Bro

 

I know you have good intentions, but most people just don't understand this. I'm over 120 days and I still haven't told anyone I know. I think you should only tell someone about this if you're in a relationship with them.

 

I would take it very slow and see where she is at as in terms of her attraction to you and see if there is something there and slowly get into that issue because you don't wanna dump all that emotional baggage on someone who isn't seriously vested in having a future with you even then you don't want them feel bad for you you just want to let them know your dealing with this issue and put a positive spin on it just my advice then again I'm not too experienced myself when it comes to this dating thing pmo robbed me of learning all this earlier Lol

 

I'm pretty sure every parents knows that teens watch porn and masturbate. I didn't tell them, because I didn't feel the need to, I'm pretty good at managing it on my own, at the moment

 

Well good luck bro remember don't put all your eggs in one basket

 

Good luck, having a real life trusted friend can be a very positive thing, I hope things work out for you!