Breakup, relapse and recovery

[virtusac]

Going through the breakup of a three-year relationship made me relapse and act out the worst aspects of my sexual addiction. The addiction was definitely one of the main reasons behind the end of the relationship, and that fact (along with some others related to this situation) hasn’t fully hit me yet. I’ve been running from the grief by relapsing. But I know it’s going to catch up to me eventually. And when it does, I want to be able to handle it. I want to meet it standing tall. I want to hold my ground.

I’m writing this because I’m preparing myself to get back on the right path. After two weeks of hell, I want to restart my recovery and rebuild myself into a better person. I know how insanely destructive my addiction is—there’s no way around it. And I want to have a positive life. The only way that can happen is by doing the right things: getting better, taking care of myself, and recovering.

Please, share your thoughts. Or just say anything. I just want to feel like someone understands and hears me.

 

[beersquash]

I too went through a breakup and my addition was a major factor in the break up. Just showing up here is a huge step forward in the battle to reclaim you life.
Just keep showing up

 

[Life enjoyer]

Same here man got out of a 1 year relationship with a girl I thought was the one. Keep your head up high and lock in because if you keep relapsing you’ll keep feeling like crap. If I can reach day 24 post break up so can you!

 

[MrVerdant]

Hey brother. I love your attitude.

My default mode is very fatalist and nihilistic so I really appreciate people who stand tall and speak positively about their lives. I have to work really hard to get there.

Sorry about the break up. I know that the pain and the grief doesn't help matters. It sucks to disappoint someone you love because of the addiction. But you will overcome and you will find someone who will appreciate you.

Years back, I had a relationship during the worst period of my addiction. Thinking about it, I really made her life hell. Not a day goes by without me thinking about her and just trying to figure out a way to make amends.

But I did learn a lesson if I can share it.

Learning that the purpose of every relationship is to give. Sure there is fun and games, but you go into the relationship to share the best of what you have. I think the point is to become the best person we can be and then share that with someone. I don't think we can be that with this addiction.

Take it one step at a time brother. I just want to encourage you.

You have better days ahead.

 

[virtusac]

Hey brother. I love your attitude.

My default mode is very fatalist and nihilistic so I really appreciate people who stand tall and speak positively about their lives. I have to work really hard to get there.

Sorry about the break up. I know that the pain and the grief doesn't help matters. It sucks to disappoint someone you love because of the addiction. But you will overcome and you will find someone who will appreciate you.

Years back, I had a relationship during the worst period of my addiction. Thinking about it, I really made her life hell. Not a day goes by without me thinking about her and just trying to figure out a way to make amends.

But I did learn a lesson if I can share it.

Learning that the purpose of every relationship is to give. Sure there is fun and games, but you go into the relationship to share the best of what you have. I think the point is to become the best person we can be and then share that with someone. I don't think we can be that with this addiction.

Take it one step at a time brother. I just want to encourage you.

You have better days ahead.

Damn, man. Thanks a lot for this comment. It means a lot. I really liked what you said about giving being the main purpose of a relationship. That makes a lot of sense.

Whishing you the best, man. Keep your head up. You deserve a lot of grace.

 

[virtusac]

Same here man got out of a 1 year relationship with a girl I thought was the one. Keep your head up high and lock in because if you keep relapsing you’ll keep feeling like crap. If I can reach day 24 post break up so can you!

Thanks a lot for the encouragement, man. We can do this.

 

[virtusac]

I too went through a breakup and my addition was a major factor in the break up. Just showing up here is a huge step forward in the battle to reclaim you life.
Just keep showing

I will definitely keep showing up. I won't give up on myself. Thanks!