BUDDHIST ACCOUNTABILITY THREAD GROUP B Current members: 2 Available spaces: 18 This is a space for Buddhist fapstronauts of any school of Buddhism. This is where we update each other on the challenges we are facing in our reboot. It is a space to encourage each other towards the goal of rebooting and beyond that depending on our own reasons as to what we want from NoFap. We currently have no spaces for new Buddhist fapstronauts in this thread. If you would like to join then please do comment here and I will start a new accountability thread for the next set of Buddhist fapstronauts where you can continue to post updates. There are no hard rules for the thread, and it is about creating an environment of ease without any pressure. However this is what is recommended. Setup the NoFap counter Start a NoFap journal and add regular entries. Start your journal as a thread in your age group and link that thread to your profile page Put updates in this thread on a regular basis (preferably daily) Follow each other on NoFap Keep in touch with each other through NoFap inbox. You could pair up with a partner or be in touch with the different Buddhist fapstronauts. Join the Buddhist Fapstronauts Group on NoFap Possible improvements To start a NoFap inbox group conversation in addition to the above Guidelines Whiles it is not compulsory, share Buddhist teachings which are of relevance to topics such as sexual desire and celibacy. Right speech - NoFap in general is a space where sensitive issues are being discussed. Therefore right speech is of utmost importance when communicating with each other. Before replying always ask from ourselves - "Does this bring benefit? Does this bring discord in the community? Do these words cause harm to another being? Are these words going to be encouraging?" Make replies to fellow Buddhist fapstronauts as well as share your daily update with abstaining from PMO. All for one and one for all - this means that in this thread anyone is free to feel accountable for as many other Buddhist fapstronauts as they like. That way we are all accountable for each other as well as look for each other for support and encouraging words. Everyone is a follower as well as a leader based on the changing circumstances. All of these methods will help to increase accountability. It is the mentality of all for one and one for all. As per NoFap guidelines we can only take upto 20 members in this group. If more members like to join, then I will consider starting additional threads for Buddhist fapstronauts. NOFAP REBOOT Here are some criteria which will serve as a helpful reminder of what needs to be done or avoided during a NoFap reboot. The choices as to what to include/avoid depends on which mode of NoFap one is doing: Lite Mode (avoid P) Standard Mode (avoid PM) Hard Mode (avoid PMO) Monk Mode (avoid PMO, P-sub along with taking up selected austerities) Here are some basic helpful suggestions on what to do each day in one's reboot (not exhaustive). Some of them are options that are available to make use of. Avoid PMO Avoid thoughts of sex which would lead to TUC Identify one's P-subs and avoid P-sub as this helps to speed up the reboot Identify possible triggers and avoid them or find ways to subdue them Use accountability software whiles pairing up with a Buddhist fapstronaut in this thread BUDDHISM AS APPLIED TO THE NOFAP REBOOT As Buddhists, the teachings in Buddhism can be applied skillfully according to place and circumstances in our reboot. This means that we may try to take advantage of secular non-religious/non-spiritual methods to maintain our streak as long as they are within the boundaries of Buddhist ethical conduct. However in addition to these secular methods, there is also the open option of using Buddhist-oriented tactics/strategies based on Dharma/Dhamma teachings as an additional layer to augment the process of rebooting for us Buddhist fapstronauts. As different schools of Buddhism emphasise different aspects of the entire teachings under the corpus of Buddhism, feel free to choose methods which are compatible and not in conflict with the school of Buddhism which you follow. BRAHMACHARYA (BUDDHIST-ORIENTED CELIBACY) Brahmacharya in Buddhism in its most perfect sense means to live as a monastic in its deepest meaning. However there are other layers to the meaning which can be made use of. Here are some aspects of Brahmacharya which can be made use of. These aspects can be suitable options for those who wish to follow Monk Mode of NoFap. Celibacy - This is to abstain from all sexual behaviour in body, speech and mind. It also can extent to avoid watching visuals or listening to audio that is related to sex. Sensual restraint - This is to let go of the extremes of desire (lobha) and aversion (dosha/dvesha) at the level of the 6 sense bases (salayatana) of eye-vision, ear-sound, nose-smell, tongue-taste, body-tangibles and mind-thoughts. The letting go of the extremes of desire and aversion can be done by clear comprehension (sampajhanna)towards whichever the stimuli that arises through the 6 sense bases, to establish insight (vipassana) in the present moment so that equanimity (upekkha/upeksha) can be maintained towards them. Insight is to observe what arises in the present moment and to reflect on its true nature that such stimuli/objects are impermanent, non-self and unsatisfactory, and based on this reflection, one can let go of aversion or desire towards them and to show equanimity because of that. Sublime abodes/Immeasurables (Brahmavihara/Apramana) - As Brahmacharya in its etymology means to 'the conduct of the sublime' it can be a useful option to incorporate the Brahmavihara onto the Brahmacharya. These are the 4 qualities of: Loving-kindness/Loving-friendliness (Metta/Maitri) Compassion (Karuna/Anukampa/Daya) Altruistic Joy/Sympathetic Joy/Gladness (Mudita) Equanimity (Upekkha/Upeksha) MINDFULNESS Given that most of us will be avoiding PMO and even P-sub, if we try to maintain mindful awareness of the present moment even in the post-meditative state then thoughts of sexual desire would not have a reason to arise. EFFORT Whatever the thoughts on sexual desire that has arisen, to let go of them through insight into such thoughts where their end result is unsatisfactory/suffering. To prevent whatever the thoughts of sexual desire that has not arisen yet, by being mindful of the present moment with clear comprehension. Reflect on the disadvantages of sexual desire and sexual behaviour. To maintain one's celibacy by reflecting on the advantages of celibacy from a Buddhist view-point. SPEECH avoid talking about sex in a manner that is contrary to celibacy avoid talking about the advantages of sex to talk about the advantages of celibacy not to engage in amorous sport with the sex which one is oriented towards (this includes flirting) not to praise the sex which one is oriented towards (saying things such as "you are sexy" or "you are hot") 8 PRECEPTS 8 Precepts can be taken on whichever days one likes to follow them. It is recommended to follow the 8 Precepts during the phases of the Moon (Full Moon, New Moon, First Quarter and Last Quarter) although not compulsory. In a NoFap streak the 8 Precepts can be used as Buddhist-oriented dopamine detox for a day or two or whichever number of days one is happy to do them. The precepts which appear in addition to the 5 Precepts have been highlighted. These 8 Precepts can be taken as part of NoFap Monk Mode by Buddhist fapstronauts. Avoid/refrain from killing/harming sentient beings Avoid/refrain from stealing (taking that which is not given to you) Avoid/refrain from all sexual activity including self-stimulation Avoid/refrain from lying/false speech Avoid/refrain from all intoxicants (or alternatively avoid becoming intoxicated for those who cant refrain from intoxicants) Avoid/refrain from having meals/solid food/pulps/semi-solid puree etc after midday. This usually means to either have lunch only, or just breakfast and lunch but no dinner. One can drink water or tea after midday but not thick fluids such as milk, coffee or fruit juice. Additionally one can avoid meat, fish and eggs if they are not vegetarian or vegan if they like. Avoid/refrain from entertainment and self-adorning. This means to avoid an type of entertainment including music, films, shows etc as well as to avoid wearing jewelry, applying make-up, anything used to beautify yourself. Avoid/refrain from using high luxurious seats and beds. Avoid using animal skins. 8 BREACHES/BREAKS OF BRAHMACHARYA These 8 breaches are taken from Hinduism, but since they are not in conflict with Buddhist teachings, we can be free to incorporate them too. Essentially this is an alternative division of following Brahmacharya in body, speech and mind. Sankalpa – lustful thought of the opposite sex. Darshan – looking at a member of the opposite sex with carnal desire. Adhyavasaaya – desire for carnal knowledge. Guhya Bhaashan – talking privately to a member of the opposite sex. Keertan – praising his or her qualities to your friends. Keli – amorous sport with the opposite sex. Sparsha – desire to touch, embrace or be near a person of the opposite sex. Kriya Nivritti – sexual enjoyment. NOTE - even though it is encouraged to follow the above guidelines of logging in daily to give updates, from a realistic viewpoint there are no strict expectations. Also as far as accountability is concerned, we are all accountable for each other. Even though accountability is meant to be on a one to one basis, as far as this Buddhist Accountability thread is concerned, if you dont have anyone to pair up with, then at least consider that the Buddhist who replies to your post here is accountable for you on that day, whiles on a different day it could be another Buddhist. In this way we are all accountable for each other and move together as a group in addition to trying to keep in touch with each other individually. It helps to add a different layer of accountability in addition to the conventionally accepted view of accountability of one-to-one interaction.