BURDEN OF SUCCESS IS SO REAL, OFTEN LEADS TO FAILURE

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Harsh Vardhan Jain, Oct 6, 2017.

  1. Harsh Vardhan Jain

    Harsh Vardhan Jain New Fapstronaut

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    Hi, everyone

    I am a newbie to the concept of NoFap. My longest streak and that too at the first trial was 30 days(felt really proud about that). Since my relapse after the first trial, I have never been able to reach up to that mark, have read posts here also about relapse and motivation and have gained a lot from them. There is still something which bothers me which I am not able to fully eradicate. I am writing this post to get some really constructive feedback and I also believe, me being vocal here would help me keep in check might also help someone else out there like me.

    THE ISSUE:
    After the first relapse, I have always felt more and more pressurized about NoFap.Don't get me wrong I understand its effects and long-term benefits. But each day since then I have been afraid of my failure in it, up to the mark that I mostly think about NOT FAPPING ultimately leading to FAPPING because I got nuts in my mind about it. Something which should be normal, like it is for a lot of people out here, is not normal for me. I feel afraid all the time that I will fail again and guess what it does happen for me.
    Yes, I have been abstaining myself from porn but still, it happens. And the worst part when I am done with the act of pleasuring myself, I feel good about it, as if I earned that or deserved that.This is the twist. (Now I should mention I do not masturbate every single day. Sometimes once in 10 days or once a week.)
    I can see conflicting viewpoints within me only. Also, this leads to constant pressure and guilt about what I am doing is right or not? which again creates the vicious circle of increased thought process, abstaining and then one day breaking it.

    a) All I am asking here is what can I do to make this NoFap thing not something SACRED? so that my mind does not put it on a pedestal and sees it as a healthy part of life.
    ANY SUCH PERSPECTIVE WOULD HELP ME IN MY JOURNEY

    Thank You!!
     
  2. Harsh Vardhan Jain

    Harsh Vardhan Jain New Fapstronaut

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    Thank you so much for your advice @emedemario. ALL THE BEST to you too.
     

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