Can any bisexual males confirm that heterosexual sex isn't affected when experimenting with gay sex?

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Maximus19, Jun 30, 2020.

  1. Maximus19

    Maximus19 Fapstronaut

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    Thanks a lot for your input mate :).

    I really do think guilt has a lot to do with it, and I think I've actually had first hand evidence of this. Basically I've been an incredibly anxious person my whole life, and one who has always dwelled on things, and who also tends to overthink things too. Interestingly, I've found that when I am in a good mood and have a bit of success in my life, I never get any gay thoughts, or question my sexuality, however when I am down and struggling with life in general, this is when these thoughts tend to occur. And yes, I always have had a sense of guilt too.

    So I can completely see the merit in your observation (regarding guilt), and it would make sense as I was brought up in a household where my mum was incredibly homophobic (not my Dad, but she ran the household), and it's pretty much stayed with me since then.

    And I've been off porn for 12 days now (really proud of myself as it's been hard), but I've been experiencing the famous withdrawal symptoms, and this has also triggered my OCD as I start to question whether me abstaining is just me being in denial and not wanting to accept reality etc. Chronic porn use, sexual confusion and OCD is a horrible combo, and it's what I have. But hey, I can only do my best, and hopefully things will get better the longer I go without porn and masterbation. I def want to get back to masterbation after my reboot as I don't think it's bad, but would rather have a healthier approach to it if that makes sense :).

    Thanks for your reply, really means a lot.
     
  2. Breadman

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  3. Breadman

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    Sure it makes sense. It feels good. Just try to keep it real. Use fantasy not porn or just react to a random hard on or morning wood. Even better find a woman you care for and take it from there.
     
  4. phwrancesco

    phwrancesco Fapstronaut

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    i am not bi, but i think having gay sex will definetly affect your straight self.
     
  5. st831

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    totally relate. happily married. I was raised very sheltered so I always wondered if other guys jacked off too. I think that curiosity just grew inside me. I have never been attracted to an actual guy. only online. and it is easy to seek the male friendship and bonding aspect of the experience...though I have never done anything irl.
     
  6. st831

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    relate. I think it is the male bonding thing you are missing. I am not the one to tell you what is acceptable male bonding and what is crossing the line. It seems from reading alot on here that young guys grow up masturbating openly with their buddies at least once or twice....then seem to grow out of it. That was never my experience. So I feel kind of like I always missed that male bonding experience.
     
  7. Maximus19

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    What do you mean by male bonding?

    I've always had lots of guy mates, and never felt the need to do anything with them at all.
     

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