Can you control your thoughts?

While you can control it , it is normal to have sexual thoughts during your reboot .
For me I used to have sexual thoughts and some P scenes that I remembered , the only way to deal with it is to let it pass smoothly don't face it or say no to it just don't focus on it and try to do something else instead , something that needs focus and energy ( Not meditation ) .
It's not very damaging for your reboot just be aware of the chaser effect ( when the thoughts become stronger ) unless it is way normal to have it just make sure that you keep yourself busy during your day and don't stay alone for long times .

 

Most people have them, you will have hard time finding Fapstronaut who does not. They are normal part of the reboot. I do not believe it is healthy to suppress them. But you should not indulge in them either. And you definitely should not intentionally create them yourself. That can have some slight effect on your reboot. It does stimulate your dopomine and if you are fantasizing of porn scenes then it has very similar effects as watching actual porn.

If a thought comes up notice it and then move on to something else. Having some type of mindfulness practice is extremely powerful to deal with those things. Also keeping yourself busy and engage with some mental task works good as well.

 

No you can't control the thoughts that come in your head. You fighting thoughts will make it worse, trust me from experience. Accept the thought as it is. The key is not to identify yourself with thoughts that come and go. Let it be and move on, it will go away in seconds. As you accept this you will notice that fantasizing/thoughts will rarely annoy you.

 

As I meditate a lot, yes you can control it but it takes a lot of practice.

First thing you need to learn is acceptance.
Second is ask: yourself, what are the consequences when you do masturbate "like feeling fatigue afterwards".
Third, do you want to feel the side effect again from the masturbation.
Fourth is make your choice.

It all depends on the mind's owner choice.

 

For years I struggled with alcohol addiction. Through my recovery and with meditation I've realized that thoughts themselves are initiative and addicting.

If I start to fantasize, those fantasies will become more and more intense. Eventually they become obsessions and will lead to behavior.

The practice of meditation allows me to see those thoughts rise up, acknowledge them, and then set them aside without them snowballing into something more detrimental.

 

Watch your thoughts. Be detached and observe their patern, until you become fully aware of why they are 'bullying' you. And you'll get clearer and stronger.