Can you get rid of a fetish?

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  1. Chazz1111

    Chazz1111 Fapstronaut

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    Hey so I am a recovering porn addict and only 15 days or so in and most of my porn was to this disgusting fetish I’ve had all my life and I’m just wondering wether it’ll be possible after 90 to however many days that I will be able to be more attracted to normal sex and people than this fetish as I’ll be at work for example and get flashbacks of the porn I used to watch and have to shake my head to get rid of the thought
     
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  2. Can you get rid of fetish?

    Sure.

    Reason:

    Usually people start with vanilla and then slip deeper because of your need more stimulation.

    Fetish is not your fault but rather bigger dose for your addiction.

    You are not a bad person.
    It is not your fault.
    If you want to get rid of it, avoid porn alltogether.
     
  3. Chazz1111

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    Thanks man that gives me hope :)
     
  4. Ltafma_92

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    I know this feeling too my fetish has run my life since I was 4 years ols
     
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  5. modernstore99

    modernstore99 Fapstronaut

    The pros from YBOP know the answer.

    Does porn addiction cause irreversible damage to the brain?

    I’m straight, but attracted to transsexual or gay porn (or gay attracted to straight porn). What’s up?

    Is my fetish porn-induced?

    What stimuli must I avoid during my reboot (did I relapse)?

    How do I know when I’m back to normal?
     
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  6. Ltafma_92

    Ltafma_92 Fapstronaut

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    What do you mean is my fetish porn induced
     
  7. Ltafma_92

    Ltafma_92 Fapstronaut

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    Really that's incredible how
     
  8. modernstore99

    modernstore99 Fapstronaut

    If you want to reply to someone hit the "Reply" button on the right side of their specific comment.

    Read the articles!
     
  9. lonely_1

    lonely_1 Fapstronaut

    How do you know if a fetish is gone, and how long does that take?
    Also how do you know if a fetish is porn induced or not, because I wonder if my fetish always existed or not.
     
  10. Safery9

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    Yes you can get rid of your fetish, it took me 316 days until I was cured or able to cum from vaginal intercourse
     
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  11. blunt.ever

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    I've had foot fetish since kindergarten. from the age of 14 I started masturbating to foot fetish videos. For a year I decided to give up PMO and for another year I try to get rid of this fetish. It's true, now I can refrain from masturbation, I can control myself and I don't watch videos or pictures like this anymore. But I would still like to try this thing again with a girl. Believe me, it's better to really try a woman than to watch porn. The porn industry is a mess that gives you addiction and affects your psyche. It's a fetish you have to practice with a woman you trust. In recent years, the world is more open-minded. And many admit they have this fetish, it's not a shame. It is normal to have a foot fetish, as long as you do not have other inclinations for more extreme fetishes such as sissy, bdsm, gay porn, cuckold, etc. These are fetishes you should be ashamed of. Foot fetish is normal, if you do not exaggerate. A massage, a few kisses in the sole. And to tell you the truth, it is the most common fetish. It is best to accept yourself as you are, but to give up foot fetish videos. They are very harmful.
     
  12. Forthey

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    Hola amigo contemplar una sana felicidad en las relaciones afectivas, todo es posible con el tiempo, date la oportunidad de asimilar este proceso de recuperación, reestableceremos nuestra emocionalidad y claridad mental.
     
  13. My fetishes for spandex and piercings started before porn as turn ons when I saw them in the real world. Porn escalated them by exposing me to more extreme stuff than what I see in my world.
     
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  14. Lencho

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    I also CD before porn.

    How did you discover your core issues? I'm going to therapy and so far I've discovered that my main problem has been an overly controlling mother but my therapist says I need to think of more traumatic moments.

    How do I find those memories that affect me today if I can't remember?

    Once I do remember, how do I heal and be at peace?

    How did you do it?
     
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  15. legolas997

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    Can you tell us what is your fetish?
     
  16. Steve2001

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    dude this is exactly my problem like i can vividly imagine all the fetish videos i have watched for the past 7 years from since i was 12 and my fetish is not even porn induced fetish i actually started watching porn after i started fapping to my fetishes and i have a mouth fetish so i am more attracted to female mouths than boobs or vag now dont get me wrong i can fap to normal porn but i am more attracted to my fetish and as you know mouth is literally on the face hence its kinda hard for me to do nofap but trying hard is all i can do at this point
     
  17. Steve2001

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    So it is possible to get rid of the fetish atleast upto a degree where you can refrain from fapping to it? I have a mouth fetish and its kinda serious now and i really want to get rid of it.
     
  18. 30_Something_Explorer

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    Well from what I understand a fetish is an attempt to increase the stimulus of the porn in order to gain the same dopamine levels as previous highs. Like a drug you're constantly seeking that next novelty in order to satisfy the craving. Restoring the dopamine through abstinence the proper mental attitude/approach and simply doing other things with your time and drive should at the very least diminish fetishes.
     
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  19. Aaronblack2140

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    Yes, it's definitely possible. The brain's neuroplasticity, its ability to reorganize synaptic connections, supports that conclusion. I, myself, had an intoxicating fetish, but I overcame it. Nonetheless, it can be retriggered. A true fetish renders one incapable of orgasm in its absence, or so I once read. Therefore, I imagine some fetishes are more difficult to remove than others. I do not know how, exactly. I think choice, will and persistence are key. Like all things in life, you must choose between aversion or attraction. The closer you are to finding the strength within yourself, the nearer you are to being in control. How long you maintain that is up to you.
     
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  20. Sure. Attack at the weakest part of the fetish. You have find the weakest part.
     
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