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Can you look rationally and still maintain your balance, and riding out the big urge

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Exit To Freedom, Sep 16, 2020.

  1. Exit To Freedom

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    I'm wondering because I notice lately that I made a plan just not to look at women at all when I see potential "clickbait" for my brain. I look away, what you don't see can't harm you I guess. But then again, we have to live in the real world around real people, not like the triggers that catch you online. I've found this strategy to work to some degree, but you do have eyes in your head and if I'm walking, glance up and in my peripheral vision see "another one", like today it seems like I'm triggered even more. "Oh no geezus, another one!" I want to be able to look, just because I see with my eyes, and not gawk, but not also cow away in fear.

    It seems the same way with urges, I can control my thoughts to a certain degree, especially after a relapse because of that letdown, maybe I've learned this time, and I'll shut down these thoughts before they build. There comes a time though, at least for me, when the lust train is calling, the primitive mind is prodding, and I think that is the time if I'm not mistaken, of course to get involved with something else, but also to ride it out, fantasies and urges, and feel and see it for what it is.

    I'm really trying to figure out why this damn thing is so powerful when the "big urge" hits, and I have felt so helpless and almost like "I have to do it". I've said that to myself as if it's my destiny and it "just doesn't matter" - not now, got to do it. Damn, I love it when I give in, and hate it later. Must love it too much, but I only realize later that it's not real, just a fix.
     

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