Can you still get a good GF if you're in your mid-thirties?

''If you want a girlfriend just ask her out. Every time i ask girls out, they say yes. It always worked for me.'' - Brad Pitt
He is 55 now.

 

Ok jokes aside, yes you can have a girlfriend. I'm 26 and i only had one girlfriend and it was just for 3 months. I always failed at relationships because of porn so seeing my friends dating all the time and having girls made me feel rushed too. But now after a long streak i just don't care about that anymore. I think my pied is cured and i know that i can have a good relationship. But i'm not needy anymore and neither should you. Women feel it and they don't want people like that. Respect time, everything will be yours in the right time. Of course you can't just wait home, but go out and do stuff, focus on your job, your career, make some money and take care of your body. Someone will notice you. I met girls in their 20's that had a fetish for guys that are more than 30's. Women love mature men, but you gotta act like one. Trust in yourself, do what's right and the universe will bring you the right girl. Take care.

 

Just wondering, do you always write in bold font?

 

Yeah, i think its cool!

 

Dont worry man. You are 34. You can still find younger women -5 years your age. And dont worry about a child too much. There are good girls with child. If she is the one for you, you see it yourself, and you dont care because of that child. You are happy either way. Just relax and take care of yourself and your problems right now. Then you dont have to worry in your 40s or 50s can you get a good girl, because you ruined your relationship with a good girl. Whatever the reason, PMO, depression, lack of self love, insecurity. Fix yourself and trust God.

 

Yes you can.
If you are willing to expand your net you can catch better or more fish.

Little net, little fish.

 

I’m still in my early twenties but I think it’s worth mentioning that I’ve been to a few meetups and bars and have seen a good amount of hot women who are in their mid 30s and looking for a man. They’re obviously not easy to find but I’ve come across a good amount of them so I wouldn’t give up hope. I think there’s plenty of hot girls in their mid thirties, at least where I am from which is Boston.

 

I can relate for sure. I'm 31 and have never had too much success with dating apps. I felt I never get quality women through apps. I'm fairly good looking but with dating apps most of the time, you have to be in the top 20% of males to really get attractive girls. It's a system set up for women to have abundance and get to pick the creme of the crop. I also don't drink so going to bars isn't my style and I really despise loud, noisy environments.

So starting about 2 years ago, I began dabbling in cold approach in the day time. It seems that PUA culture has got a bad rap and understandably so but there are a few guys I respect that help those who want a different way to meet women. Whether it be the street, libraries, book stores, grocery stores, malls, I found I can get higher quality women without dealing with male competition or loud noisy environments. As long as you approach in a socially calibrated way, the majority of women love it. It also does wonders for your confidence too and transfers over to other areas of your life.

If you have any questions or want to learn more, PM me. I'm happy to help.

 

It's very much possible my friend. I know the Lord has somebody for me, I refuse to find a partner on dating websites. No thank you, lol

 

He is bold, in all aspects

 

I'm 33 and I'm willing to die alone if I have to raise another man's child. I understand your concern. It's also mine. I would lower standards on the looks of girls, but only if you have high standards. If you're normal, don't put up with less than you deserve.

Have a look at TRP online (The Red Pill). It's a common saying women age like milk, men age like wine. You can find a good girlfriend who is single and not divorced. Unfortunately, most young girls in their early 20s wouldn't date you or me, let's be real.

Time is ticking, but for girls is worse. Girls on their 35 are totally desperate. I found one like that, she seemed too crazy so I had to dismiss her.

Not wanting to put you down also, because I am in the same situation, but start grasping that marriage is not for everyone and you might end up alone, and that is okay.

Sorry, not sorry.

 

I often get anxious in this regard as well. Like mentioned above though, at least we do not have a body clock to worry about. Most of us can have kids way into life. When women are around our age, 33 for me, their biological clock isn't leaning in their favor.

My fantasy is that I will meet a woman who did medical school or law school, something that they devoted their 20's to and now that they're done, they're looking for a guy. haha. One can dream

 

Brother dont feel rushed. Theres women out there. First thing is to embrace that solo energy. Honestly. I speak to large groups for work at times. I also suffer from depression...and well Im here. We all could list a million things were not happy with but thats not the point. I am in a bit of the same spot but Ive also been told Im way to comfy solo. Embrace yourself first. Become comfortable and confident w/ yourself,your action,thoughts ,ideas and emotions. Be not affraid to communicate them and or know when and whom to only. Be comfy w/ being solo. Each time I speak to a group,maybe 50-100 people I just force myself out of my shell if Im shutting down. I feel my depression creep in..and its like a wildfire...it spreads and Im closed.My lonlieness is like clothing at times. I feel it so much. We cannot allow that enemy to storm our gates. Force yourself out. Do things you wouldnt normally(healthy,safe) try new things...force yourself to smile all day..alll daaayyy...and defend your happieness. Not saying you need to be over cheery but Im saying look for the optomism. When you do,impart that to others. It then becomes confidence. That mixed w/ your "not ugly "mug and some smiles... That my friend makes female friends and panties drop. Women...people in general find happy,confident individuals attractive and are drawn to them. I try to channel that energy. Im not old but Im not young and Im amazed,Ive always liked older women,but I get hit on by a lot of younger women. Im friendly but not arrogant by nature. Im really just laid back...but its the moment..direction and confidence. You can to. I have faith in you. Embrace your you.

 

I have been following this one since I am of similar age and situation. To answer your main question, i believe it is still possible to get a good gf in your mid 30s. At least good to me is minimal to no baggage, gainfully employed, attractive to me, and a genuine good person.

Should you lower your standards? Short answer if no, especially if you are seeking a life partner. However, if you find your standards may be ridiculously high, you might want to rethink some things. Obviously if your physical standard is in the 9-10 range, you may want to consider 8s are cute too. I know that is an oversimplification you probably know, but I don’t like to leave things open to interpretation on Internet forums.

Kids are a different story. Ideally, I would say no kids but it depends on the circumstances and what qualities the woman brings to the table. Now if the kid is hell on wheels or the dad situation is messed up, I’d have to walk away. One’s sanity is more important. That’s a personal decision though and you may be limiting yourself at this age, but you have to go with what works for you. Same thing on age difference. Slightly younger may be best at this point because of biology, but again, it depends on the person.

I struggle with this sometimes, but as others have said, don’t feel rushed. Things come to everyone at different times. Be at peace with yourself and your life and keep your heart and mind open. Work on being a good man and these things will fall into place. We all end up being right on time.

 

You can easly have children at yours 45, so you have 10 years to enjoy woman and then marry or whatever you want. Use this time wisely