Can't fail again, embarrassed.

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Willp0wer, Feb 7, 2016.

  1. Buzz Lightyear

    Buzz Lightyear Fapstronaut

    Relapsing? The hard truth is you need to change yourself. The mass of men are using P today. Why? Because we have been mis-educated in a system that enfeebles our will. A consumerist society wants passive consumers, and P is the ultimate consumption, where while you consume, you are yourself consumed.

    If you want to rise above the mass, then you need to re-educate yourself. The ego will not like it, but if you want it badly enough, you, your will, your true desire, will lead it kicking and screaming. And then in the light of day, in the light of Truth, Beauty, Goodness and Unity, your little ego, with its base desires, with wither and die. Good luck people!
  2. Fighter834

    Fighter834 Fapstronaut

    It's critical to have a plan in place for preventing relapse. For me, this was exercising regularly, managing my emotions and not taking on more than I could handle, putting safeguard's in place on electronics, telling people about my addiction, and talking about my emotions with someone regularly (especially when I was stressed and vulnerable). Find someone close to you that you trust that can hold you accountable through your journey. And try to find a new, healthy addiction to keep you occupied as a lot of the issues occur when you're lonely and bored.

    Expect some withdrawal symptoms in the early going but remember that this is your brain rewiring and healing. It will get better with time and the positive benefits start quickly.

    It also helps to have a plan in place for when triggers/temptations arise. For me, this was removing myself from the situation immediately, walking or exercising, talking to a friend/loved one, and telling myself "that's just not me anymore". I haven't had to use this "plan B" in a long time but it did help me early on with some struggles that came up. The farther away you get from this, the easier it gets...just don't go backwards.

    These are some ideas that helped me but everyone is different. The most important part of your journey is finding what works for you and learning from your mistakes and slips. Do everything in your power to keep moving forward without relapse but if it happens don't let the failure suck you back in to the habit. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, learn from your mistakes, and "fail better" next time.

    Best of luck to you with your journey! Keep fighting ;)

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