Can't get erection with gf, also should I tell her about addiction?

on the same boat brother. First off remain postive. if you feel like giving up just remember why you started and remain positive. trust me man there's no point cause it's gonna set you way back for nothing and your going to end up at day 1 multiple times off your next relapse.

Now for your gf. I'm on the same boat... it's gonna feel atleast for me out my comfort zone but if she really loves you just tell her... Or like some others have said tell her your on medication that makes you have problems getting it up. either way she's gonna find out.. better off getting it out in the open now. If she leaves so fucking what, allows you to have more time to better yourself minus that stress with being with someone and knowing you can't get it up. Stay positive man and listen to me. Don't even browse bro, you'd be making no progress. Get busy with something else. Meditation and DEEP breathing helps more than anyone could think. good luck brother man!

 

Youre on the right track but 5 days isnt enough time. You haven’t even recovered from your last ejaculation.

Give it a month to expect results. Dont tell her about your former porn use. Tell youre youre experimenting with semen retention (which you are) and dont want to ejaculate for a while. Then, dont. In 30 days youll notice a hugh difference in every aspect of your life including erectile function

 

Dude,
I just got it up for the first time in 53 days and people reckon I've been quick! I would advocate telling her, as I told my wife the first time that I couldn't perform, but each person needs to judge the repercussions, as they envisage them.

 

You said abstaining from P/M... O is also a prime factor man. It has to be NO PMO. We all had many many many sessions brother. Confused our reward circuits... Even if you could get it up enough to fuck your girl I wouldn't even do it. You have to hold back awhile before you do so your brain can "rewire" itself but that comes from no no P no M and no O. You try to soon and you could be throwing yourself back a little and delay the process man.

 

I didnt tell mine. I just avoided sex for a while which actually went unnoticed. I never really wanted it to often anyway because i felt like an impotent loser and i would just end up embarrassing myself yet again.

Discovered NoFap, started immediately. Around day 40 we had sex 3 nights in a row for the first time ever (9 year relationship) and the best sex ever(for me anyway) stay hard the whole time. Fantisized about HER throughout the day.

Man, just forget you have a dick for 30-45 days. No artificial stimulation. No edging. No fantasizing. Focus all of your sexual energy on her.

Tell her about the porn if you feel you need to but i think if you do youll have another huge problem to deal with

 

could be a problem indeed.

Hugh if you don't mind me asking what age did you start PMO,when did you stop, and hoe bad was it?

 

Started around 15 (1993) but with magazines, progressed as technology progressed, at age 40 i was a what is thought of as i moderate porn consumer, never crossed my mind that i had an addiction. Struggled with unexplained Ed for years, chalked it up to anxiety or the excuse of the day.

Looking back now. It was a huge problem. I mean what kind of man beats his dick to...well, lets not even go there. I just know that im now fully committed to never again.
Im 41 now, and if i do one thing in my life it will be keeping my son away from that shit

 

no doubt man. i started around age 13-14 maybe, year i don’t remember but it was definitely high speed,2 sometimes 3-4 times a day, im 21 now. realized last year i had a problem when I found out the hard way... seems to get a little better then numb dead feeling sometimes. idk if i have a pelvic floor muscle problem or if it’s just in my head but i can get an erection in bed laying down (only way i ever pmo) but as soon as i get in any other position i lose it. this shit has ruined my life man..

 

Honesty is the best policy, she will likely only start thinking it's because you don't find her attractive and that will start upsetting both of you. Be honest.

You need to give it longer than 5 days also.

 

PLEASE be honest! A million other reasons will be going through her head....like its another woman, you dont find her attractive etc.