Cant get erection.

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by Tommyg9873, Apr 28, 2019.

  1. Tommyg9873

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    Hey people. Im not doing very well, im getting quite upset rn. Im really worried that i have fucked up my sexual life forever. Im only 18 and i have been watching porn for a long time but the porn escalated to feed my lust and desires so i ended up watching hardcore porn and speaking to girls within that area which fed my addiction. Ive started the no pmo but im really worried. I tried to have sex but i didnt even get an errection, but i still thought she was hot and attractive. I was lucky to of forgot a condom so it wasnt really embarrassing, we just made out and shit. Will i ever be attractived to vanilla again?Am i just going through flatline? I there anything i can do to make myself sexuality attractived to vannila real life stuff? Sorry for shit english, just panicking and upset.
     
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  2. bfdet

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    Hi '9873

    It took you a while to get where you are today because of PMO, so don't expect to undo the damage done to your mind and body overnight. You can, and you will, heal by following a noPMO reboot, but it does take some time and commitment to work.

    If you haven't already done so, read "the getting started guide" that you can find on this site's homepage (noFAP). It includes a lot of helpful information.

    I'd encourage you to try a hard mode reboot of at least 30 days. 90 days would very likely be better. It won't be easy, but you CAN do it.

    Stop the PMO and get started on your journey to healing.

    One day at a time is how we all succeed.
     
  3. bfdet

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    hi '9873 !

    Just checking in. You OK ?

    One day at a time is how we all succeed.
     
  4. Tommyg9873

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    Im great today. Built up some sexual tension with a girl and got an small erection so im seeing progress. Much love for the support brother.
     
  5. bfdet

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    Good. Keep going. Remember, don't be checking out your progress alone; THAT will lead to resets and relapses. You KNOW you are healing and you KNOW the noPMO journey will continue to help you heal, so stay on track and keep going. Your body and your mind will continue to heal if you allow them time to do so.

    One day at a time is how we all succeed.
     
  6. Tommyg9873

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    Today has been bad. I relapsed. I went back to old ways for the night looking at hardcore porn and jerked off. I dont know why i did it, i probably simply got too horny. I was seeing major improvements, morning erections, random erections, increased sensitivity, and erections to hot women. This probably would never of happened before i started this process. I think one question i was asking myself when doing this was what i needed to do to rewire my brain into liking vanila stuff. It all seems a bit too good. However from now on i am going to trust the process and ride along with it and see what happens. I just hope that this relapse hasnt damaged me too much. I was seeing so much improvement.
     
  7. lonxwolf

    lonxwolf Fapstronaut

    It'll get better. Just take time to breathe and let your mind calm down. For me, stress is the one kills my erection. Let it be there. Trees will grow again.
     
  8. lonxwolf

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    Do not force anything. Just do things in their usual way, but do it with your awareness. We do things for some reasons, and one should be aware of them.
     
  9. bfdet

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    Being horny won't kill you. Its not an excuse to PMO.

    Good. Remember that the next time you are tempted. And also remember how lousy you feel after a relapse.

    NoPMO does work for healing your mind and your body if and only if you allow time for both your body and your mind to heal. So, yeah, re-start your noPMO journey and trust that with time, you will continue to experience the healing and benefits that you've already seen.

    BUT

    You are NOT a passenger on your journey of healing; you are the driver. You can't just "ride along and see what happens" . YOU have to set the course of your journey and steer along that path, avoiding the pitfalls and obstacles that will most certainly appear on the path. Some important points are knowing your goals and objectives and why you need to get there. If you don't know where you are going, and why you are going there, you'll get lost.

    Drive carefully.

    One day at a time is how we all succeed.
     
  10. lebs

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    Your only young so I think if you done a good 90 days on hardmode you would see results. I fucked myself up for a while, so Iam trying to do a full year. I went 255 days a while back and that really helped relapsed since then though.
     
  11. Tommyg9873

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    Yeah. Not gonna lie i really saw improvements after 40 days. I was incredible. I think i got a bit too cocky "literally " and thought i could handle looking at some shit but i dont feel that good about just got out of control Probably all my progress gone honestly but im okay with it as i feel like ive finaly put all that stuff behind me. I dont feel i will need to ever visit the crap i was looking at before this process now. Ive put it to bed. Now i just need to rebuild my noPMO count and see the progress again. Im not in a rush anymore. Cant wait for my results.
     
  12. bfdet

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    Remember those improvements and how much they mean to you the next time you get an urge to PMO (and yeah, you will get urges ...)

    You still are. There is no better time to continue your journey of healing than right now. You've restarted, and that is a great idea. Keep going.

    One day at a time is how we all succeed.
     

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