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Can't get past 3 god damn days

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Deleted Account, Nov 17, 2019.

  1. Need to work on my will power on this one , boredom gets to me and I'm walking around with random semis , one thing leads to another , ehyy .

    Depleted , miserable and thinking wtf . Straight back to watching fetishes , relapsing is pretty depressing especially because the of the shit I've become accustomed to watching

    In the end only I can overcome this and hit small targets and build upon it.

    Did you find after a week or so , you got less urges or just developed stronger willpower around this .
     
  2. Get some exercise to replace the time you spent masturbating. You'll find you have a lot of energy.
     
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  3. Demodectic

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  4. It always burns red hot at first. I almost relapsed on Friday, after about 6 days I also had a problem around getting over the 3 day hump. I kept busy. I found stuff to do even If I was tired, and such. There is always something to do

    Even if you're just walking, walk for miles to get your boner down or the thoughts of Jacking off. To go away. That's what I did, but more importantly stay busy so you don't have any time to masturbate or think about your dick

    The longest I've gone without blowing my wad was about 14 days. It gets easier after the first week, my real problem was porn though. I'm currently on day 8 and feel super horny, wake up with precum in my briefs and all.. but determined

    Only thing I can tell you is even if you can't get over the 3 days, to the 4th keep trying man. At some point you should be able to break through
     
  5. Maybe you should just forget the numbers for a little bit and just do your best. Stay focused on the future. As long as you are seriously trying I don't think you can expect much more at this point.
     
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  6. randomname3

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    I suspect you need a new paradigm. Will power as a big boost to get you started, like pulling the ripcord on an engine. It's importance is to get you STARTED on a new path. But just like the ripcord, you can only pull it so hard and so far, and after that the engine has to take over. Willpower is not an engine. Rather, the engine is a new set of habits that get you to your goal.

    First you need a goal. I believe you first have to go until no less than 30 days. But not just any 30 days, because that'll give you an excuse to fall for lies like "I've gone a big number of days, so just quit and call it good" and "this round's getting tough, I better relapse then I do a fresh start." So, you have to set a specific date you must go until: that's your goal.
    1. Armed with an exact date, you can use a simple habit to dispel "big numbers" and "fresh starts" and other temptations. Repeat a date, like "December 17" (aloud or inside your head) to shout down any and every temptation, until it goes away. They truly will go away if you shout them down, and the habit gets stronger the more you do it.
    2. The next habit you'll need is looking away. It really is true that you can train yourself to look away and avoid seeing anything that makes you begin to lust. I learned to do it, so can you. And if some media has a bunch of triggering stuff, switch to something that doesn't.
    3. You'll probably have some wet dreams in the first couple weeks, which often happen because you were slipping on habits 1 & 2, but also happen just to clean your system that's still out of wack. Sadly, wet dreams usually make the next day harder, even if it's not your fault. There's no way around that, but sleeping in both underwear and pajama pants is the best physical deterrent.
     
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  7. get out of the house brother, join a class, talk to people, workout, meditate, cold shower, fight for your life!
     
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  8. If you're out in public or with people, you're likely not going to be masturbating in front of them (unless it's a crazy group!). I agree with taking a walk or going for a run. Maybe even a class of some sort. So you can be productive, learn something, connect with people instead of masturbating
     
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  9. mghyper17

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    its never over. be strong m8
     
  10. Theseeker19

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    You said that you can't pass 3 days I know how frustrating can this be But I'll you the thing that made power through not only 3 days but way further. The first thing you need to do is to ask yourself why did I relapse? what made me do it?. you mentioned boredom so how to avoid boredom? well, By staying busy doing STH you like IT'S THAT EASY. For example, why don't go jogging, play football or read a book?.
    Before you plan on how to avoid boredom I want to tell You about the secret of overcoming porn addiction. IT'S ROUTINE. Yes, it's your routine. I want you to look at your routine and find what things or habits you need to fix or maybe replace. having an organized and healthy routine is the KEY. Yes, It's the key because I've done it. Make sure that your routine is mixed of Seriousness and joy once you do this you won't even think about porn.

    All these bad feelings are temporary. Boredom, stress, hangovers, feeling down. They will all pass. If we keep taking refuge in porn and running away from pain and discomfort then we will never be able to grow as persons and become real men. We need to break out of this cycle. Or at the very least try to. Otherwise, what are you going to do when things get tough in life? Hide in your room? Become depressed? What are you going to do when you realize that hitting on girls brings up a lot of anxiety and nervousness? Runaway? Make excuses?.

    You have to exercise every day It doesn’t matter what kind. Jogging, sprinting, yoga, heavy lifting, ballet, basketball, nature walks, etc… Get outside of your comfort zone, exercise every single day. Sometimes it’s only 10 minutes of stretching, sometimes in a 1-mile sprint, some days it’s 2 hours of lifting.

    You have to take responsibility for your life, your failures, and your current situation. You were a victim. You fell into a trap. Both of these things are true. But now you are aware of the trap and you have to start taking responsibility for your selfish addict past. Specific repeated choices have led you to this point. The same ability to chose healthy living and recovery will lead you out of this dark place.
     
  11. Willpower is not the answer. Willpower is a factor to start your streak, the torque to move on, then you will need to fuel yourself with other parameters that keep you going on, and that would be a combination of a strategy to keep you away from triggers + doing a healthy lifestyle and routine + reading rebooting materials. This is how you may change. Willpower alone will lead you to nowhere but a longer years of struggle.
     

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