Can't keep streak due to loneliness

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extreming96

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In october last year I had a streak of 6 months and was very happy with my girlfriend (couple years). 1 week after my streak she broke up with me.

After the break-up till now I went for 2/3 months and then I failed and then 2/3 months streak again. Today I failed again after 2 month streak. I promised myself to focus myself on gym and work after break-up. Work is so going so good and busy right now that when I come home I get so lonely that I miss the intimacy I normally would have when I got home because I had a girlfriend. It is even so bad that I delay going to home when I'm working because I know work keeps me derived and satisfied.

What can I do to remain a long streak again? Especially when I feel lonely. I think the problem is not mastrubating but missing my girlfriend but knowing it is better to not contact her and move on. Currently I am not very satisfied being single because I got so used to being in a relationship. For a long time I tried meeting up with friends but at the end of the evening I'm still sleeping alone when we have met the whole day.

Thank you for reading and any advice in my situation is very helpfull.
 
Well, first of all, you are doing great with your nofap journey... I mean, getting 2-3 months-long streaks is great.

Now, I can't imagine how you felt when she broke up with you, especially since you were together for several years. What helped me was focusing on my rehabs and after I was done with those, I focused on getting bigger and better at martial arts and now I'm focusing more on making money. So I'm basically just drowning myself in work to keep me busy/satisfied (somehow).

Now there are these two little rules to relationships that I think are very important and they might be of help to you.
1, If you don't feel comfortable alone, you won't feel comfortable with someone else
2, If you still feel heartbroken, don't try to fill that hole with someone else... My friend broke up with his girlfriend after 3 years of being together, week later he found a new girl that he immediately started dating. Now they are roughly 4 months together but 3 weeks back he told me how he misses his ex and how he would love to go back to her and have sex with her.

I'm sure that if you keep working on yourself, one day you're gonna find an even better girl, you might think not, but really there are better.
I hope it helped a bit, I'm not that good at this type of stuff
 
You are never alone, God is always right there next to you brother.
You can ask him for help anytime, he will always help his children.
 
Forgive me if I''m misinterpreting what's going on here, but it sounds like you may have a desire to get back into a relationship simply for sex, and if that's the case, it will literally never end well. My advice is to get your addiction to sex under control first before you even think about another relationship.

Good luck!
 
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