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Can't Orgasm During Partner Sex

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Leon2019, Mar 10, 2019.

Is porn the reason for my inability to orgasm during partner sex?

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  1. Leon2019

    Leon2019 New Fapstronaut

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    I'm 23 years old an recently got into my very first relationship with a guy. I lost m virginity to him too. The first time we had sex, I realised that it was a challange for me to orgasm. I was a bit concerned but figured that it was my first time so it is to be expected.
    Yesterday, we had sex again and I haven't had an orgasm again. At this point it was very embarrassing for me. I tried various things and positions and still didn't have the urge to release.
    Sex ended on a sort of bad note because he felt like it's his fault he can't satisfy me. We kinda had a heated discussion about whether I was attracted to him or if I had someone else.

    This whole situation is really bringing me down and has been on m ind all day. I really don't want this to affect our relationship.
    I started doing my research and came upon the idea that porn could be the reason for all of this.

    You see, I have been watching porn constantly for almost 5 years, everyday. It came a point where I was having an orgasm to porn up to 3 times per day.
    Could my dependency on porn for the past couple ears be the reason for this?? Someone please help me because this is having a really bad effect on me.
     
  2. GoodFeeling

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    Yes. Your brain is used to hyperstimuli that is porn, almost like heroin. You're used to looking for that endless rush of dopamine and real life sex isn't anywhere close to that. Only cure is cutting out porn and probably masturbation.

    For me, I don't have any urge to masturbate but my brain is addicted to porn. Over a year ago I could barely keep an erection during sex, could never ever orgasm even after hours of sex and had little to no sensation on my penis. Today, I can confidently have sex even with a condon on and finish almost everytime (not from oral, yet). I haven't been able to cut out porn completely from my life but I have improved A LOT. As of now, porn is more harmful to my mentality than sexual performance. I still get a better kick from porn than sex. How sad.
     
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  3. Leon2019

    Leon2019 New Fapstronaut

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    Bumping this post.
     
  4. MrUndo

    MrUndo Fapstronaut

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    I was in your position once with my first boyfriend. He was doing oral on me and tried with his hand but I couldn’t orgasm. I was embarrassed but he was like “you probably either do it too much or not enough”

    It’s a different sensation. Now I can orgasm even after getting off before in a day. The sensation is so different. Fapping to porn is not the same feeling as actual stimulation. For sure abstain from fapping a couple days before trying to have sex. Just be honest with him and tell him what’s going on. I’ve been there. It sucks but when you do have it, omg it’s so good
     
  5. Leon2019

    Leon2019 New Fapstronaut

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    Well this entire problem is getting in the way of our relationship. We haven't been speaking much and he is upset with me. His whole idea is that I am not attracted to him the way he is to me and that's why I can't orgasm. He also thinks I'm in another relationship. It really is stressful but I just wish he was more understanding.

    Thanks for the motivation though. It has really been taking a toll on me. Good to hear that there is a solution and things will work out.
     
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  6. MrUndo

    MrUndo Fapstronaut

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    It’s not easy but you need to let him know. Especially since you are new to the sexual world. He is just insecure and afraid but reaffirm that to him! I wish you the best of luck and powerful orgasms in your future
     
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