Can't quit

When the pain of staying stuck outweighs the pain of change, you will change. I hope that time will arrive soon.

 

Oh lord... Oh lord... This brought me to tears.

Whoever you are, wherever you live, know that I love you (nohomo).
I pray that you get through this addiction.
I'll give you some tips.

1. Get a porn block.
2. Set goals, write them down!
3.When getting urges, talk to yourself in the mirror.
4.Take naps around the time you normally relapse.
5.Meditate.

 

so your hand is so attractive that you keep having sex with it?

Be determined bro, let's be honest, you are not stopping because you don't want to stop. Once you REALLY WANT TO STOP, You will FIND A WAY and made it through

 

You must cut off your access to P. I quit a 20-year career in IT and spent 2 years completely away from computers and smartphones in order to escape from it. Radical lifestyle change is required when the addiction is strong, as it seems to be in your case. There will be a price to pay to get free, and it will be costly.

What price are you willing to pay? That is what you must decide.

A simple first step would be installing accountability software on all your devices and adding one or more trusted APs to receive the reports. Also, if you are not working with an AP or two, this practice is indispensable for the long-term entrenched addict. If I can serve in this capacity, please let me know. We are in this fight together, but if we are to make forward progress, we must actually *fight*!

 

They say filling your time is a great way to distract yourself. i would say working out. RUNNING" into walking for a while can help. lets face it, PMO is the same thing as doing drugs. we want to change our reality for that short moment when experiencing a urge. you will always experience the urge (but only temporarily) in this time 1st-you're challenged to battle the thoughts that created the urge with thoughts of other things, anything! (colors, car, animals, blueprints ETC... ) i cant tell you what to think of. 2nd- fighting the hand that feeds you. the tool that is used to perform the act needs to be occupied, pickup something, color, put yourself into a push up position, (TYPE ON HERE).. something to put your tool in service of something else. 3rd- this is all in our heads>the one that is on our shoulders< its looking to feed the thoughts that we allow to manifest into the act. i have not mastered anything myself yet but and trying to learn what will work for me. it will happen for you one day, you already did the hardest part and the was telling your story.

 

You can't stop YET. Me neither.
Luckily you can imagine a different future. Keep trying and learning with that aim in mind.

 

what did you do after quitting IT after 20 years?
I've never heard of someone that committed before. i hope all is going well for your, Sir

 

I am of the belief that pornography is a symptom of a greater problem.
For me, I had all these pent up negative emotions. About certain members in my family, myself and life in general. I would keep all of these pent up inside until I could take it no longer and would fap for relief.
I am only now beginning to realise these things.
I am still not saying what I want because I am in a very toxic situation at home.
But I am making steps to change:
1. I'm moving out of home in 2 months
2. I have a daily log that helps me to release all my emotions.

I think you need to find out an underlying cause for your addiction. And try your best to tackle that. Hope this helps.

 

hi SSHA6451, i couldn't agree more. we wired a path in our heads that is stemmed from a emotion we experienced in our past. once triggered we (if let) allow the pattern to take its course and results in release for whatever reason...

the daily log you speak of, is it and hand written log of what you did in your day or what you want to do in a day? i have never heard of log emotions before. i would like to try this method.

 

My log is at the end of the day.
And it's on this website. https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/becoming-a-new-me.222030/page-3#post-2029745
In it I write out the things that happened during the day. My frustrations. My realisations.
I recommend trying this method. For the most part before it I was stuck on about 20-25 day streaks before it.
As you can see I'm now on 40.

 

thank you. good for you so far, i could try to benefit from noting my emotions. i hope this will help me

 

I became a plumber. No computers at the end of a soil pipe!

 

haha. that is cool man

 

Porn blocks don’t work okey!!! I tried already