Caundalism, Rebooting & Recovery

I posted a similar post in the reboot section but someone suggested I come here.
I’ll make it short and sweet.
1. I began fetishizing my wife on the net.
2. This, by posting nude photos of her for other men to fantasize and PMO too. I would PMO with them.
3. Wife knows, is not angry, commits to stay with me.
4. Simply blocking sites wasn’t good enough so I forced the site admins to block me.
5. Now the reboot begins.

Questions are this:
1. How does rebooting work with a wife your PMOd to?
2. Is sex with her a bad thing? I think she and I can skip a week or two but - I don’t think she can go to week 3. (Note: our sex life isn’t terrible but I haven’t ejaculated during real sex with her for 3 years).
3. Has anyone gone through this? I really need some help.

 

I can masturbate and ejaculate when the thrill is there but cannot ejaculate with PIV. If I did, it would take an hour or so and she doesn't want to spend that much time. She wants as many quick one and dones as she can get - but its for her - not me. That is how things have evolved. But she gets upset when I don't or can't finish. So it is definitely DE due to PMO.

 

There is a bit of ED as well. Right now I am taking sildenafil just to make sure I get hard when she wants to have sex. I cannot get hard on my own. But images of her, I do get hard. It is like my brain is wired to only get off on a simulated version of her and not the real version.

 

As I said, she has already stated she doesn’t care. She knows what the pictures are that have been put up. She just asked not to post them anymore. Which I haven’t.
She’s even sent me new ones which I think is some kind of secret test. I think if she ever saw those floating around - it would be as you say.
She and I have had this discussion. The odds of someone recognizing her in a sea of nude photos in a very niche porn fetish - it’s nearly impossible. So she knows that if someone confronted her, her first response would be “why are you looking at this type of porn?”
So she’s ready for the situation if it ever arises.
So the problem you speak of is not the problem. The problem I’m asking everyone is how to get through this. But everyone seems hyper focused on pics going on the net.