I watched the video you posted and I find I can relate to most if not all of it. Of course being a hot blooded young male, years ago I chose to satisfy an urge and I made certain that I could establish meaningful relationships with women and could obtain sex in this manner if I chose to do so. However, my viewpoint and goals often depart from the majority and here it is no different. American society (of which I am a part) definitely strongly promotes marriage by contract and also strongly encourages men and women to have kids. I felt I needed to have regular and fulfilling sex initially and to form relationships to grow as a man and I still think I was absolutely correct. But right now I am not pursuing a relationship at all and the biggest reason why is very much in line with the Clasik Obas video. Part of my 'wising up' happened as a matter of age and maturity for me. I realized that pursuing sex and aiming for a traditional marriage with children is a huge time and monetary commitment and not something I am interested in going forward. I know and have known for a long time that my passion is for learning deeply, solving problems that I find challenging and contributing/helping others at the same time. It seems silly to wander around chasing skirts and I made the conscious decision that my life will not be about that. Instead, I will pursue the things I am most passionate about and what I feel most enriches my life. I am definitely open to the idea of a beautiful and mutually beneficial relationship at some point in the future, but I'll be the first to admit it is not a top priority and it is definitely not a problem that I know how to solve easily. At a minimum, I may need to grow significantly before I am ready to find that. What we choose to do in our 20's, 30's, and 40's (any decade for that matter) is a very important decision not to be taken lightly. We know enough now about how a mind develops to consider carefully the path we choose. I have needed to make some tough decisions in recent years. Do I want to pursue women? Money and a powerful business career? Lower stress and an easy but sub-optimal existence? Knowledge and learning? An outdoor career in sports? Trying to balance too many things can easily make you the master of nothing and for me, I prefer to include a small number of things in my life and to make sure they have great meaning, significance and lead to happiness for myself and those around me. For now, I ended up choosing to pursue knowledge and learning, to engage in sports for health benefits, to let the money take care of itself (deathbed analysis told me not to go for this purely), and not to bother spending most of my free time pursuing women. It is not as likely that I will take a purely celibate route myself, but in some respects, I am not far from it and share many of the same ideals.