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Certainty is the key

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by justsumthin, Mar 21, 2022.

  1. justsumthin

    justsumthin New Fapstronaut

    I've been trying for years and years.

    I never wanted to do this and every single time I did it I said to myself "this is the last time, im not gonna do this again"

    I read the books, I watched the videos.

    I visited this forum and nothing works.

    it would seem like something worked for a little bit. but I could never get past 1 week.

    on average I was getting off every 2-3 days.

    Id build a little momentum and then tear it all down.

    but I got somewhat of a revelation.

    Im spiritual and I believe in god but this isnt a spiritual tactic or method. this is a law of nature.

    earlier that day I was on a sales call and had gotten hesitant when asked questions about my product.

    I realized that if Im hesitant then I cant sell.

    I also realized everytime that I've been scammed I was completly convinced that I was making the right choice because whoever was scamming me made me believe that they had what I wanted. and I believed them becuase they were not hesitant at all but they were certain.

    I realized that certainty sells. and its really difficult to sell without being certain in your product.

    I had also listened to a podcast earlier that week about this cult leader. and he was so sure of everything he said and he was so fluent in his speach.

    "you can have everything you've ever dreamed of. just follow me"

    seems stupid in text but when you heard him say those words it sounded so convincing.

    so in order to sell I need certainty... but what if I just have certainty with everything?

    I've never questioned how many fingers I have. its always been 10... im certain of that.

    I've never questioned weather or not I have 2 eyes. Im using them right now.

    Im am certain of these facts.

    as humans we question all of our beliefs. except the ones we trully believe. those we never think to question.

    you never thought to question if you have eyes or not. because its just a fact to you. you are certain that you have eyes. if you didnt have eyes you couldnt read this.

    if your certain the sun will come up tomorrow, will it actually come up?

    if your certain that you have a mom and a dad, are they actually real?

    yes.. the sun will come up

    and yes.. your parents are real

    you are certain of these facts. you dont have to question them.

    in the bible theres a women with constant bleeding and she spent all that she had to get doctors to try to help heal her condition.

    but when she had seen jesus she said to herself

    "if I can just touch his robe, I will be healed"

    notice how thats different from how we usually think?

    I would say "I hope to god I never do this again"

    or pray "please god I dont want to do this anymore"

    but I didnt actually believe that I would never do it again or that god would take it away from me.

    the women said "I will be healed" there isnt one ounce of unbelief in that statment.

    she was certain that she could get what she wanted if she just touched his robe.

    at the time there was a large crowd around jesus so she squeezed through to try to touch it and she barely touched it.

    but when she did. she felt that she was healed.

    and jesus turned around and said... "who touched me"

    everyone was like... theres litterally hundreds of people crowded around you.

    what do you mean "who touched you"

    but jesus felt the healing power flow out of him.

    when the women came forth and said that it was her, jesus said.

    "Daughter, your faith has made you well. Go in peace. Your suffering is over."

    jesus said that it was her FAITH

    and if you dont know faith is belief.. its believing something WILL happen.

    the women said to herself, I WILL be healed.

    she was 100% certain

    there wasnt a doubt in her mind.

    and because of her certainty, she was healed.

    one time I was playing basketball and I was missing litteraly every shot.

    I had made 1 of 30 from the 3

    I said to myself "man I cant hit anything out here"

    then I stopped myslef and said

    "what if I flip the script... I can hit any shot!"

    then I turned around, shot the ball, and it drained in.

    "whoa.. that was easy"

    I grabbed the ball again. threw it up. 2 in a row

    3 in a row

    4 in a row

    I got 7 in a row.

    I didnt workout anymore. I didnt study the game. I just changed my mindset to have certainty... and my results showed what I believed.

    from 1 and 30 to 9 out of 10 shots in.

    just from telling myself "I can hit any shot"

    so when I put all this together... that certainty sells. and certainty gets you what you want out of life. it made perfect sense.

    if I am cerain that I will never jerk off or look at porn, will I do it?

    no.. because Im certain.

    its not up for debate.

    there is no cheat day.

    I am stating a fact... so there is no questioning it.

    I will never jerk off or look at porn again... and Im certain of that fact.

    now I barelly have any urges to do so. when I logged on to this site I was like "thank god I'll never need to look at this for help again."

    now I get to help people... because Im ceratin this will help someone else if you just apply it.

    and lets just say you try this and you do go back to your old ways...

    were you ever actually certain?

    if you were certain then it would never happen right.

    so if you go back to your old ways then you truly didnt fully believe.

    dont try to force it.

    dont try to punish yourself, create a whole bunch of rules, try to have THE STRONGEST WILL POWER ON THE PLANET.

    you dont need any of the tactics, books, or forums if you are just...


    even when I do get urges I just say.."Im ceratin Im never going back to that.

    before my urges had so much power over me. like I couldnt even help but fall into it.

    now its like my urges seem so weak and minor. its not even a big deal for me.

    and I havnt used this tactic in just my addiction but every part of my life.

    I hadnt had a job or made any serious money in months and I was about to get behind on credit cards.

    I started using certainty and I closed $7k in cash in a week and a half in my business.

    I was also suppose to move out of my appartment last week because my lease was up.

    I didnt have another place to stay but I was certain that I was going to have a place to lay my head come move out day.

    I was able to extend my lease for 4 months without an increase in rent, which is awesome cause this company is money hungry and charge for everything.

    so a deal like this is unheard of. and I get to experience an amazing life now because of my certainty.

    I hope this helps you. I hope this is the last time you ever have to log onto this forum.

    nobody wants to be here lol.

    be certain you will never go back to that.

    be certain you will never log onto this forum again.

    just try it. it will change your life.

    thanks for reading :) ur amazing.
  2. ITs Possible

    ITs Possible Fapstronaut

    Nice motivation, and yes, certainty, is the base for you achieve anything in this life, faith can move mountains!

    God Bless You!
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  3. Shift in mindset is all that matters. Very nice post. Thank you Sir
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  4. I definitely relate to this a lot. I've been struggling to put into words what has been different for me this time around, because up until now, it has been a huge struggle of falling on and off the wagon for years, and getting past 30 days was a huge accomplishment that took me many, many tries. But recently, when I rejoined this site and started a new counter, I've gotten all the way up to 45 days very, very easily. I know something is different this time, but I've been unable to articulate what it is, and I think you just put it into words for me. I'm certain this time, where I wasn't before. And the thing is, I always knew I wasn't certain before, but I didn't know how to force myself to become certain. But for whatever reason, I am certain now, and it has made all the difference.

    I think a big part of it for me has been my old motto, "nothing changes if nothing changes." I looked at the life I had and thought "I'm in the same place I was in 8 years ago. What's going to stop me from being in this place in 8 more years?" And the answer was, quite frankly, nothing. I didn't have enough of a change in my life to ensure that something would change in the future. And that thought scared me, in a good way. A motivating way. I don't want to be in the same place in 8 years. I don't want to be on this site reporting another relapse after 3 days of sobriety, and on and on the cycle goes, for 8 more years. I want to be done with this crap, forever, right now.
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  5. Raven King

    Raven King Fapstronaut

    Great post! Thanks for sharing. I believe this also applies: You are what you believe about yourself. If you believe you are a sinner, you will sin. If you believe you are an incurable addict, you will stay addicted. If you believe Jesus took your sin away and made you a Saint, you will start living like one. If you believe you can be free of your addiction, you will be.

    Stay strong, brothers and sisters.
  6. Daruma

    Daruma Fapstronaut

    Great post - I've felt this way as well. "Those who think they can and those who think they can't are both usually right."

    It's how to get that faith/belief/certainty in the first place though that is the crux of the problem. But I agree, if you approach this thinking "well, I'll do my best and see how it goes" ...you're going to be destined for repeated failures. You need to truly believe that this time is going to be different, and because you believe that, it will be so. When you make it black and white, with zero tolerance for failure, you stay away from ever putting a single foot onto a slippery slope.
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  7. Jambulance

    Jambulance New Fapstronaut

    This thread is awesome.

    Thanks for the insights everyone. I'm going to commit.
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  8. V∧DΞR

    V∧DΞR Fapstronaut

    Thanks for this post.
  9. Caveat Emptor

    Caveat Emptor Distinguished Fapstronaut

    When I relapse, like breaking a triple digit streak, I have trouble going more than days without a PMO. This post has helped me a ton with my current streak.

    I’d like to add one thing to it. If you are certain you will beat this (and I am, because I have), then it should have little power over you. So, since reading this post, everytime I have a though to go peek, I mock that though. I immediately reject it, with righteous anger.

    I’m know I’m gonna defeat this thing. And I remind myself of that all the time, because I tell that stupid addict brain “fuck off. I’m not wasting my time on you.”
  10. I totally agree, the first time I have been on this forum and after reading ybop and understanding the nature of this addiction I was so sure of the damage it had caused me and that I can pull through my urges. I put my faith into Allah (the one and only god) and I was sure that I will be able to resist all the urges to relapse through his support and will, and that’s when I got a huge streak and was doing really great in my university. This reminds me of a Hadith of prophet, peace and blessings be upon him: Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Allah, Glorified and Exalted, said: 'I am as My slave thinks of Me, and I am with him wherever he remembers Me.'
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  11. Great Post, the spacing

    Works well for my reading abilities Thank you so much I feel like I grew in much wisdom today.
  12. memo1974

    memo1974 New Fapstronaut

    [QUOTE = "Mohamed912 ، post: 3317354 ، عضو: 476609"] أوافق تمامًا ، في المرة الأولى التي كنت فيها في هذا المنتدى وبعد قراءة ybop وفهم طبيعة هذا الإدمان كنت متأكدًا جدًا من الضرر الذي تسبب فيه وأنني أستطيع تلبية رغباتي. لقد وضعت إيماني في الله (الإله الوحيد) وكنت على يقين من أنني سأتمكن من مقاومة كل الحوافز للعودة من خلال دعمه وإرادته ، وذلك عندما حصلت على خط كبير وكنت أقوم بعمل رائع حقًا في بلدي. جامعة. وهذا يذكرني بحديث النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم: عن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه أن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قال: قال الله عز وجل: إني. كما يفكر عبدي بي ، وأنا معه أينما يذكرني. '[/ اقتباس]
    جزاك الله خيرا
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  13. واياكم

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