Chad, high value men and pickiness (hypergamy) of woman is to blame

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nfpexperiment

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hi,

Just open discussion, so after watching the youtube discussion about dating and woman, the conclusion is:

Online dating and social media gives women more options of men to date.

-the chads and high value men (20% of all men) get all the attention from the women (60% of the women)
-the average men dont get much attention
-so that why there are more single men than single woman, the single woman are too busy chasing the chads and high value men, they rather be a side chick to chads and high value men than date average men.

So the chads, the high value men and the pickiness of the woman are to blame for the mess we are now in. If the chads and high value man settled for a good woman more quickly and if the women settled for an good average guy more quickly, guess we will have less single men I suppose.

Br,
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Water finds it's own level. In other words, you will find a women who is essentially matched to the type of person that you are. If you are a very attractive guy, chances are you will end up with a very attractive woman. If you are insecure, you will end up with a woman who settled on you, because she is probably insecure also.
These are generalities, but for the most part it's true. The good news is there are plenty of women out there that are perfect for you. Get off social media and go find one.
 
I_Am_Strong_54 said:
If you truly believe the high value men are the ones getting the girls, why not become the best version of yourself and become a high value man?
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U cannot change ur looks so easily unless surgery, but that is not advised. Even if u are doing ok, still women dont want you, unless u are rich af.
nomo said:
Water finds it's own level. In other words, you will find a women who is essentially matched to the type of person that you are. If you are a very attractive guy, chances are you will end up with a very attractive woman. If you are insecure, you will end up with a woman who settled on you, because she is probably insecure also.
These are generalities, but for the most part it's true. The good news is there are plenty of women out there that are perfect for you. Get off social media and go find one.
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Then why are the stats saying that there are more single men than women ? It is a "pandemic", men are too damn tired to try.
 
Man, if you want to date girls... You gotta go out there. There is no reward without risk. Also it's not new that powerful and rich man have an easier time. That has been happening for hundreds of years.

You can looks at the statistics and gets stuck on them and regret that you are not rich or a Chad for the rest of your life or you can go and live your life like all the other average dudes that went out there, had normal relationships, got married and were happy at the end of the day. And Honestly if you want date girls you gotta talk to them and risk rejection. I don't know what your spectations are but make sure they are reasonable.

Going back to your statistics, being good looking or having a big wallet can be attractive but I can assure you that personality can be as well. You can work on the first two, though it may take more time. The third you can start changing right now by working on your mindset.
 
Libido enslaves both genders, but gentlemen are far more desperate to have sex than the ladies. The Tinder economy is a symptom of that. Being patient enough and picky in a disciplined way, however, almost anyone can love mutually a woman attuned to their values. If a man don't even love himself, how can he proudly expect the opposite gender to do it?
 
nfpexperiment said:
U cannot change ur looks so easily unless surgery, but that is not advised. Even if u are doing ok, still women dont want you, unless u are rich af.

Then why are the stats saying that there are more single men than women ? It is a "pandemic", men are too damn tired to try.
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I looked into the stats and you are correct, but there may be a reason for it. Here's what the article said "Almost a third of adult single men live with a parent. Single men are much more likely to be unemployed, financially fragile, and lack a college degree than those with a partner. They’re also likely to have lower median earnings; single men earned less in 2019 than in 1990, even adjusting for inflation. Single women, meanwhile, earn the same as they did 30 years ago." taken from - https://time.com/6104105/more-single-men-than-women/

It sounds like single men are spending too much time online when they should be out earning $ and finding hot babes. "Financially fragile" has never been a good thing to be, and women want to find guys that can provide for them. It's the way it has worked for a long time.
Good luck, I hope you find someone.
 
nomo said:
I looked into the stats and you are correct, but there may be a reason for it. Here's what the article said "Almost a third of adult single men live with a parent. Single men are much more likely to be unemployed, financially fragile, and lack a college degree than those with a partner. They’re also likely to have lower median earnings; single men earned less in 2019 than in 1990, even adjusting for inflation. Single women, meanwhile, earn the same as they did 30 years ago." taken from - https://time.com/6104105/more-single-men-than-women/

It sounds like single men are spending too much time online when they should be out earning $ and finding hot babes. "Financially fragile" has never been a good thing to be, and women want to find guys that can provide for them. It's the way it has worked for a long time.
Good luck, I hope you find someone.
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Social media has made it hard for even decent guys who are not broke to find a gf, i get the feeling the women are all chasing chads and the high value males, they are willing to wait and be side chicks.how can there be more single men than women, if men and women population is the same, shouldnt we have equal amounts of single men and women ? Only if the same women dated the same high value man than it is possible. Unless u have the lesbians which is a possibility, I will google this.
 
nfpexperiment said:
Social media has made it hard for even decent guys who are not broke to find a gf, i get the feeling the women are all chasing chads and the high value males, they are willing to wait and be side chicks.how can there be more single men than women, if men and women population is the same, shouldnt we have equal amounts of single men and women ? Only if the same women dated the same high value man than it is possible. Unless u have the lesbians which is a possibility, I will google this.
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Maybe loads of men are hooked on porn so don't bother.
 
nfpexperiment said:
Yes why dont they bother, the females are giving them a headsche or they cant find because the woman are too busy chasing chads and high value men.
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Honestly, in my case I just got hooked on porn and completely took myself out of the dating game. I won't re-enter it(if at all) until I'm better.

Likewise though I'm sure there are many guys who turned to porn for the reason you stated.
 
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