Changes I see in my partner

I know.... Shameless.

I'm glad things are going so positively for you guys

 

I'll take a smoother penis that's 20% bigger.

 

Really motivating to hear this, especially from a woman.

 

True, when I was on M marathons, the skin was so dry and broken. Sometimes the broken/ dry skin was painful even with oil during M, and still I couldn't let go!! That state seems so pathetic now when I sit outside the lust and analyse.

~Nick

 

I'm past 60 but honestly haven't looked at it so I can't tell. Maybe I can ask the wife to take a look...science and shit.

 

lol

 

Mine too, "yo!" Its been long since I binged it.

 

YES! The same thing happened for my husband, too! Much larger, much harder, and smoother!

 

OK, away from science and shit and back to the thread topic... it's not all about penises, you know
So, my BF's changes so far (149 days in):
- He is less ticklish on his boobs. Yes, he used to be so ticklish there, I couldn't even accidentally touch them.
- And yes, the man-boobs are smaller, but it might be also due to weight loss.
- Big weight loss, because he started biking like a maniac with one guy from SAA group. Now it seems he should put on some muscle, because when all the fat is gone, he looks kind of "underdeveloped" on the top.
- He stopped (well, I forced him) to browse all p-subs in trashy "news" sites and reading fantasy books (which, I learned later, were of sexual nature for the most part), and he used to do that all day every day while we were together, since he couldn't openly watch porn all day in front of me. In fact, he now reads real news for about 1-2 hours per day in a text-only newsreader app (there might be one small cover picture of Trump here and there, ha ha!, but no half-dressed celebrities).
- He became more depressed and sad, since he is now more in touch with his feelings, and his are mainly negative. That will take some therapy to resolve. He has booked an appointment already. Also, I refuse to participate in mindless small talk with him, so he has nothing to talk about. I told him "Real conversations or nothing", so for now it's nothing. That makes him sad and unsure of himself, but hopefully he realizes we can't have a relationship without the REAL stuff.
- He is getting a bit less defensive, when I talk about my trauma and triggers. He used to always have a defensive reply to everything I said, and that would trigger/traumatize me further. Since he noticed his "tactics" have a detrimental effect on me and our relationship, he reduced them somewhat. Nowadays he just sits there and listens in silence and after a while may even say "I'm sorry".
- He basically took over housework and food shopping, since I'm stuck at home avoiding triggers and people. I sleep half a day and hide on the balcony the other half. He cooks, cleans, and even attends to kids some.
- He never takes his devices to the toilet or bedroom. If he needs to take any of them to the bedroom (if someone calls at night with an emergency), he asks my permission.
- He still doesn't share openly, without being asked first.
- He still doesn't have a real sponsor or an accountability partner that would be well ahead of his progress.

OK, that's all for now. Hopefully I mentioned the most "sticking out" things.

 

for selfish reasons (motivating me to continue the fight) this is such an encouraging thread. Thanks, all!

 

I posted the lists... I know you have asked about them before... I gave them their own thread.
I'm glad he's making progress
I'm happy for you!

 

Changes I've seen...
He's overall happier
Smaller forearms.
Straighter back and better posture
Better eye contact
Less angry
And less defensive
Chattier
Smiles more
Creative (has his own ideas)
Ambitious
Adventurous
More touchy feely
Overall more sensitive to his feelings
Listens better
Clearer skin
Other physical symptoms... Not sure if related
Even more annoying morning person

 

May I ask often did you have sex during his reboot ? Is it good to have sex during a reboot ?

Thanks

 

Me?

 

No Kenzi, I talked to Sadgirl Good luck with your partner )))))