Chatrooms

I deleted all my chat sites. I'd spend hours chatting just trying to lure women into sexual talk. I'd never ever want to meet any of them. Most of them weren't even in my state. Just waste of time & wrong of me to deceive these women.

 

with me it wasn't even just women, I'd chat with men too. I'm totally straight, but just chatting with anyone about sex would get me very aroused and hours would go by. Then the chat would sometimes continue on Skype voice chat. There was never any intention to meet, and I would never cheat on my wife, but there was something about the interactivity of it that elevated it above porn. (although I always kept a hot video playing in another window while I chatted)

 

I pretty quickly got to the point where I'd chat with anyone about almost anything. It doesn't really matter. And, unless the girl is willing to go on cam, I pretty much assume that any girl I am chatting with is probably a guy pretending. I do that too, when no one will chat with me as a guy. Chat is a pernicious hole. It doesn't just suck up time, but leads you down all sorts of lanes you probably wouldn't have travel with just porn.

 

Darrel, chat rooms in my opinion are far worse than porn because
a) it takes a lot of time to find that one convo that will turn you on
b) once you find that convo, it is more interactive than porn could ever be

 

I'm absolutely the same. Whilst I never fantasize about having sex with men, I would get extremely turned on chatting to other men about sex and masculinity in general.

 

Start at 3pm and the next time you look up it's dark outside? Or realize you've missed lunch again? And the simplest of tasks become 100 times harder.

 

I can relate too. The chat (and cam) sites have been a big problem for me over the years. Even though I am straight, like others have stated, I would chat with anyone. I find the explicit sex chat to be very arousing. Trying to avoid them.

 

Stupid chatrooms got me again. They are so fucking easy to get into and get into trouble. It takes like less than a minute and then I'm gone for hours. And it seems like the longer I go before I reset, the deeper the pit I fall into in regard to depravity, risk, etc. It's fucking crazy and I so want to be done with it.

 

I've wasted hours, days, weeks of my life in those rooms.

 

I'm so sorry. I know the feeling all too well from the times I tried to stop on my own, not knowing or accepting or wanting to know or whatever, that this is an addiction. When I didn't think there was help. When I thought hiding it was a solution. I'm sorry for how terrible this feels. But I'm not sorry you're here. I'm not sorry you could come here and tell us about it. I'm not sorry that I can tell you how I let it ruin me over, and over again, and that you don't have to let it ruin you again!

You can do this. This time, or the next time, or the time after that ... you can. You will.

I'm pulling for ya. We're all in this together.

 

Thanks!

 

I spent a LOT of time in chat rooms. For me, it was all about finding someone who would participate in particular fantasies. As time went on, the fantasy I wanted to enact became more and more particular. What I did not want, however, was to meet anyone, or even cam; for two reasons. One, I wanted to protect myself from being blackmailed, and two, because I was in my 40s, and overweight, and preferred to claim I was much younger and more attractive.

As others said, it involved so many hours of fruitless effort. I would occasionally be successful, and replicating that success was what it was all about.

In recent years, as it became much more about setting up meetings, and computer cameras were everywhere, I couldn't maintain my shameful charade.

 

Chatrooms are the worst. They seem so innocuous. And many times it is just chat. But then hours are spent trying to find the person who matches ur mood or taste. It is pathetic in some sense, most people pretend anyways, but still it is the feeling of talking to a real person and maybe the sharing of fantasies.
It has taken away hours and hours and causing eye strain and sleep deprivation. It all started bcoz I was feeling extremely lonely and too lazy to go out and meet people. chats gave me this virtual connection , but alas it is worse than porn as most people have stated above.

 

This is about my descent into this vice.

 

Anyone else ever wish that your favorite chat room would just cease to exist?

 

It did happen to me at times, but I just spent more time finding others. All chat rooms and ways to find IM partners for cyber sex would have to vanish. But yes, I wish they'd never existed.

 

I wished that,and one time the server was down and I was desperate and craved so much for it again. Its a terrible way to substitute real world interactions.

 

Yes. I have a phone number memorized that I know I can call for anonymous free phone sex. Wish I could forget it. But knowing it and not calling makes me stronger each day. There will always be something I can go to for PMO, the work is more within than without. But yes, I wish I could blowup all those rooms.

 

Don't do it.
Very bad thing to do if you are serious about reboot.

 

Stupid chatrooms won again last night and then kicked me with the chaser this morning and all day. Fuck it. I am so aggravated. I will look to deconstruct this latest failure in my journal.