Chatting to Females

I'm a lot like that too and we are almost the same age. Anxiety is my ball and chain that is whats holding me back. You should check out my post in this forum. https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...le-eye-contact-with-girls.103688/#post-859381

 

I don't think there is much that can be prepared. If you prepare yourself at home you will just come off as inspontaneous and artificial. You just have to gather experience, which starts with jumping into the cold water. The good thing is there is not much to be scared of either. What's the worst thing that could happen? You won't have anything to lose with that woman, so even if you get rejected there should be no problem in just shrugging it off. The worst thing would be that you behave like a stalker or creep and your friends notice it. But I don't believe that will happen. The best advice would probably be: Just talk to her like you would talk to a woman you don't feel attracted to! If you don't know her, how can you judge if she would be good for you in the first place? Love at first sight might exist, but it's more the exception rather than the rule. Just take your attraction and turn it into sympathy and sincere interest in the person in front of you. Listen to what she says. Then, after getting to know her a bit, you may decide how attracted you feel towards her, but don't jump to quick conclusions! Don't make such a difference between women (or people in general) you like and the ones you don't like.

This video just came to my mind. Have watched it a while ago, but it contained good advice as far as I remember:

 

Just go for it. You might fall on your face the first few times but if you keep at it eventually you will make some connections.

 

To start, don't call them females. They're women. This isn't a lab and you aren't writing a report, so call them women.

You are also not alone in going speechless around attractive women. It has actually been proven as a real phenomenon!

And like Runtilmylegsdropoff said, go and make mistakes. Practice makes perfect, right? The practice mindset really helps take the pressure off - there is no failure, only things you can learn from later. Have fun with it, fall on your face, totally bomb even! Then sit back and think, ok - what happened here, where can I do better?

From my experience, opinion questions and open-ended questions about themselves get people talking (use the word "what"). You could even try, "Hi, I am practicing talking to intelligent women such as yourself, what advice could you give me?" and see where it goes.

 

There is nothing anyone can say. It comes from experience.

I would cancel the date. Just go to the bars drink a little and start talking to the ugliest girls there. They'll respond well and then you can work your way up the castle.

 

Don't have any pre-determined expectations. Some of the best times I met women was when I wasn't really looking to. A gal bought me a drink at a bar and she said she did it because I looked so happy and wanted to meet me.

 

Hahahahaha Awesome!