Clothes fetish, how to get rid of it

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  1. Eleanor

    Eleanor Moderator Assistant Staff Member Moderator Assistant

    So I've got a weird fetish: every time I get into my black pajamas, I reset. It's insane, I don't get it, but if I use the black pants and the black shirt I reset, so I have to use white pants and black shirt or black pants and white shirt. It also happens with my sleeveless shirts. It's VERY annoying, please help.
     
  2. OnceAfraidToMerge

    OnceAfraidToMerge Fapstronaut

    Reminds me of that old joke.

    "Doctor, it hurts when I do this, what should I do?"
    "...don't do that."

    But in all seriousness that is a strange trigger. Perhaps to prove to yourself that it is all in your mind, wear the black pajamas and practice some good old-fashioned willpower. I think it would be a good idea to prove to yourself that you're in control, even if it takes a few tries.
     
  3. ukbritishbloke

    ukbritishbloke Fapstronaut

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    That's a strange one. You mean you relapse every time you wear all black? Is that because you have a fetish for wearing all black? And do you think it's porn induced?
     
  4. Eleanor

    Eleanor Moderator Assistant Staff Member Moderator Assistant

    Hahaha yeah, that's why I don't wear all black but yes, I think the same, I guess I have to gain control, in my fluffy black pajamas and in my sleeveless shirts (those are sexy but when weather is hot they're fresh and necessary too!)
    Yes! It's annoying! I have never watched porn, I used to read literotica, I leaved it like 8 months ago. Right now struggling with MO. I think it's induced by that, stupid literotica that always paints everything black, like, Catwoman is sexy and dress in black, but in pajamas is ridiculous, it fits me well and everything but come on!
     
  5. ukbritishbloke

    ukbritishbloke Fapstronaut

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    I think it'd be a good idea not to try to do "willpower" here, but to keep doing as you're doing and avoid wearing all black. No one needs to wear all black. Doing so is somehow triggering you. If this were a guy, with a fetish for wearing some item of women's clothes, I'd advise him just to stop wearing it or having it in his home. So I think I'd advise the same for you. As I say, you don't *need* to wear all black. So don't, till in some years when literotica is behind you, maybe it won't be a problem for you any more.
     
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  6. Roady

    Roady Fapstronaut

    Your brain made the connection between "black clothes" and the feelings you've got while reading that literotica stuff.
    That connection needs to be changed.
    Of course, stop feeding your brain with literotica.
    In time the connections (associations) will change.
    In the meantime, wear white, blue and green :) Stop buying black stuff.
     
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  7. u376

    u376 Fapstronaut

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    Color fantasy?
     
  8. Octoling

    Octoling Fapstronaut

    Just be glad you don't work in classical music or stage crew, all-black is the traditional uniform!

    Maybe don't aspire to be a burglar either...
     
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  9. Eleanor

    Eleanor Moderator Assistant Staff Member Moderator Assistant

    Ok, maybe you're right, I tried to do willpower yesterday and I didn't reset, but it wasn't a peaceful night, I barely slept. So I think I will do that, besides, who cares if my sleeping clothes aren't matching? Thanks for the advice :)
    Yes, I use black things but not all totally black, like, black jeans with other color shirt, or black shirt with blue jeans, and there's no prob :) I haven't fed myself with literotica since months ago, and I just installed a Chrome extension to limit my time on Facebook so I don't have chance of finding triggers, also, I've unfollowed triggering pages (supposed of being of poetry but that post literotica all the time -.-), so there's no prob on that side :) Thanks for the advice! :)
    Hahahahahaha ok, don't worry, I won't, besides, it's only a pajamas problem, which makes it even weirder! But yeah, I'll just avoid it and that's it, peace of mind for me :)
     
  10. pillan24

    pillan24 Fapstronaut

    Either sell the clothes or throw them out
     
  11. Eleanor

    Eleanor Moderator Assistant Staff Member Moderator Assistant

    Not necessary, if I match them with another color there's no prob. So I can use black pants and white shirt or white pants and black shirt. It's not so serious, fortunately. But thanks for your opinion!
     
  12. ak47_uk

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    I get something similar mine was not more the material rather than colour. So the softer and smoother the fabric the more you wanting to rub a dub dub. Because it feels good. So I would suggest try using different fabric clothes. Like cotton maybe
     
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  13. ak47_uk

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    How can a colour be porn induced?
     
  14. tweeby

    tweeby Banned

    As the saying goes . . . Once you go black you . . .
     
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  15. ak47_uk

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    Lol
     

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